A famous Chinese proverb went like this ‘a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step’. So it is in whatever endeavors. The real task we all have in our hands is to unravel the complexity and hence the big baggage that we ultimately end up with as we steer through life. Nature has taught us to enjoy the minutest pleasures such as a daffodil that sways to the gentle breeze. The steadfast mountains that fill the horizon with a picturesque blockade of blue. The sweet scent of jasmine tea as you hold it close to your mouth.

Understand yourself and change a little

We need to unwind and unravel the pylons of ropes that reign upon us. These come in the guise of fear, lack of confidence, not trusting, laziness, boredom, lack of empathy and many others. Our first aim is to grapple with our own selves and understand our own strengths and shortcomings before we embark on the journey of life of our own making. The journey of life is how we see it, how we face it, how we make of it and always starts from the one single seed ‘me’.

Be honest with yourself and face squarely the biggest obstacle to your own success which is you. Slowly but surely remove the facade (the ego) that has held you back. Bit by bit. Make small but not big changes as each day unfolds and closes and know that you alone hold the key to a successful life.

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Get small snippets out of the book that specifically targets areas for improvement. For example, you may be okay in approaching women but you feel tongue-tied in keeping the conversation flowing. Here, your focus should be the kind of topics you can talk about, what stimulates a conversation and how to listen to cues for conversation.

If you are like some men where you find it hard to approach any women, then you probably need to work on boosting your self-confidence. This won’t come easily to you and you may need to practice with friends and get more support as you slowly work towards improving your self-esteem. In time, you will likely look back and see that your ‘fear’ was completely baseless and you may even kick yourself for being that naive.

Another aspect of some self-help books could relate to your dress attire. We have posted a few blog posts on this subject, just do a search on the search bar on the right of this page. The danger in this department, is that you can become too comfortable in the clothes you choose and it may reflect in your personality. Try to present an appearance that shows some style as well as comfort which will make you all that more approachable by the opposite sex.

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It occurred to me that self-help books are frowned upon by a few people who think its only available to people lacking general skills. Others rely on it to a great extent and often miss out the practical aspects that the book pertains to. It would be wrong to say that self-help books are not useful since anyone reading it can get something useful out of it. The trick is the balance. If you note, that I mentioned in a previous article that ‘Dating is not about Dating’, this sort of sums up how you should view self-help or self-aid books or resources. Use the information that best suits you and don’t delve too deep into the subject, otherwise it becomes an exercise of information only and not something you can take with you and apply.

Are Self-Help Books good for me

I often have a saying that the best way of correcting issues is to adopt the simplest approach. This applies to using the self-help tools available and instead of taking this valuable tool to rediscovering your whole areas for improvement, just target one or two specific areas. For example, let’s say you have come across a book that explains to you how to approach more women and get dates. You should read this book in context to what you are doing currently, not to completely change the way you approach the women.

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ABC aired an interesting twist to dating in their morning show and showed some clips on flip dating called The Flip Side of dating. This is where a woman becomes the man and man becomes the woman with interesting and funny sketches in their YouTube video.

The producers wanted to show the ‘other side’ of the gender gap by making this short movie and pointing out mainly the women’s point of view when it comes to dating. Although some of the sketches are funny, it does highlight the stark differences in the personalities of both men and women in dating. The ABC morning show brought in Chris Harrison the host of the popular Bachelor and Bachelorette shows to air his views on this subject. His opinion was that there are clearly differences in the way men and women date but at the end of the day its about individual preferences.

One couldn’t help noticing when Lara Spencer started fidgeting with her hair when Chris Harrison burst out offering his hand of true love for ever which she agreed only if she wasn’t married. Of course this was just a comical sketch but sometimes the tell tale signs such as the body language can have other meanings. For more information on body language, please search our blog posts for that subject.

I reviewed the youtube video on The Flip Side (Dating) and found only 217k views and not the millions as claimed by ABC. I am guessing that the subject of flip dating made an interesting avenue to plug in their own ABC show The Bachelor of which they continuously flashed the mild-mannered star of the show.

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Whether you are 19 or 90, there is a time in life when you feel lonely and yearn for companionship. Being single on a working day is easy to handle as you are with colleagues at work or college. It is the weekends that force you into negative thoughts about yourself. Free dating websites are the best solution to find a companion for an evening or a lifetime.

Free dating websites sound simple and must be designed as simple for a layman to navigate. What appeals to a layman is the attractiveness of the landing page. Don’t clutter it, it should be easy to read and convey positive vibes. When looking for a companion, one is already going through some stage of depression so a smiling and welcoming face on the page relaxes the visitors mind.

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Most sites have a simple and easy registration process with asking just a few questions to begin surfing. Most websites give the option to give specific details later while a few do ask minor details while registering which a visitor feels can be intrusive to their privacy.

Navigation must be easy by making the titles easy to understand and pages must load fast to hold the visitors attention. Privacy and security of information must be given top priority and the website must instill this faith in its visitors so they register with a free mind.

A layman is interested in only finding a true companion with whom his or hers wavelength matches. KISS (keep it simple sir) is what the visitors are asking for.

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