Structured Dating Advice in the book for Dummies by Dr. Joy Browne - part 2
The remaining part of Dr Joy’s book is dedicated to explaining in detail how to find dates and prepare for the dates. She goes into explicit details of these topics related to dating and I find it in some cases often overkill. Any intelligent person will be aware of the certain do’s and dont’s of dating and they don’t have to be reminded of this. Although the book does structure itself to provide the relevant details such that you can skip certain chapters and jump to your topic of interest.
I was curious to read about her advice on the sexual matters of dating and she aptly titles this chapter (31) with a commandment…Ten Sexual Commandments of Dating. Her advice thankfully is up with the modern times and she makes it very clear that sex is something important and should not be rushed as there are consequences. She does not advocate when you should have sex, but she states that only when you feel totally comfortable and you want to for the genuinely right reasons. For example, not because you are being pressured, cajoled or through peer pressure or on a rebound etc. Dr Joy also mentions the importance of using protection in these days of growing STD cases.
Dating for Dummies although in it’s 2nd edition, is a refreshing guide for daters who need a structured plan that they can follow and make use of. It is useful for inexperienced daters as well as the experienced daters. Like they say, it’s easy to pick up bad habits and this book may highlight those bad habits that need to be corrected. The book is well structured and simple to read and follow and is a good read for anyone who is in the area of dating but also for others who are just looking only for a light-hearted read.
Rating: 3.5 out fo 5
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Structured Dating Advice in the book for Dummies by Dr. Joy Browne - part 1
Dr Joy’s book on Dating for Dummies has been targeted to the single audience eager to take some wisdom from this former talk show host. This book in it’s 2nd edition form, covers many topics that are laid out in a structured way to help singles get over the hurdle of dating.
The book starts by addressing ‘you’ since it’s vital that you get a grasp of where you are and why you want to date. Many single folks are unaware or don’t really ask themselves why they would like to have a partner and simply dive into a relationship without questioning the merits of dating and the long-term interest. Here Dr Joy identifies you as the main character and if you have been putting dating off for a while, to start building some confidence. This indirectly get’s you into the whole matter of dating. Think of it like buying a car, you do your initial research and go around shopping and even spot the same cars on the street. Your ‘awareness’ level in this topic has just been enhanced by giving it more importance than usual.
Although she devotes only Part 1 of the Introduction touching on this valuable topic, I personally would have spent a whole chapter on this. There are many facets and reasons why people date and they need to be highlighted and brought into fruition. In this way, you may feel that you belong to one category where you can immediately relate to and thus take more proactive steps in improving yourself. I would recommend for men to read the intro on the book by Dan Albright – Chicks - A User’s Guide.
The above book has great references to why some men date actively and why others don’t. Many men I feel can relate to the author’s description of the types they can belong to and relate well to the points. I also encourage women to read this book as it will provide some insight to men’s inner psychology. Understanding this will help you appreciate why certain men behave the way they do.
Four Tips on Successful Dating
Allow for Time
When you are going on your date, remember to allow yourself good time for traffic and other unexpected delays. Don’t arrive too early or too late, this can appear as desperate or a couldn’t care attitude from your dating partner
Aware of your Senses
When you go on a date, you may be very shy and become tongue-tied. Remember, there is many things to talk about that will keep you calm and cool. Pay close attention to the sights and sounds of everything around you to make for light hearted conversation. This will keep you from feeling uncomfortable and get you to talk in a relaxed way.
Think about your Partner
If you have been observant as well as being inquisitive about your partner’s interest, you will no doubt find things that he/she likes or even dislikes. Take time to learn what they like to do, eat or other activities and find out common activities or events where you both will have a great time. This also wins the appeal of your partner, after all this is your aim, if you are interested in a longer-term relationship with him/her.
Make it Different
Plan ahead and think about where you will want to go for dates and what things will be fun for either of you. This will make you appear more interested and develop a genuine interest in each other with good intentions.
To date successfully, you will need to keep your wits around you. Present yourself as an interesting person and don’t fret over things that your partner may or may not like. Even the smallest things can turn out to be very fun. For example, if you like gardening or flowers, buy some bulbs and then take your date to the place where you can plant them. You will find yourself and your date talking about all kinds of topics and not necessarily about plants.
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7 Hidden Dates for Valentine’s Day
Most of the times we are surrounded by singles whether we are at work or school or just hanging around at the mall. If you wear a smile it is very easy to make friends. In spite of so many single friends, most of the people are unable to recognize the special one to spend Valentines with.
Recognize the 7 hidden secrets to find a potential date who is interested in you:
1. He is distant, strange and never says anything about himself and is indifferent to your presence
2. She takes extra care in dressing up when meeting up with you
3. She changes her Chat status frequently so that she wants him to know
4. He goes out of his way to walk alongside her
5. She laughs very hard so you can hear and think how engaged she is talking to that other person
6. If he fixes your hair, it’s a hint that he wants more than just sex
7. The wider the gestures with his hands when he talks shows he is interested in you
You already enjoy each others company, decipher these few hidden secrets and find your date this Valentine’s day.
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5 ways how a waiter can spoil your date
The over enthusiastic waiter at the restaurant can spoil your date if you are not too careful. He/she maybe trying to extend the best service and anticipating your needs as a thorough professional or just to get an extra tip but this may end up spoiling your evening and you are forced to leave with an irritated mind frame.
Here the most common five ways how a waiter can spoil your date:
1. Making you laugh on arrival builds a rapport but constantly intruding into the privacy and trying to make you laugh or to see how everything is going with an eye only on the big tip
2. Insisting on a popular preparation that should be ordered in spite of the guest not showing any interest in the same
3. Fails to replenish the beverages or take order for the next drink before the glass is empty as there is nothing to wash down the food with or not clearing the plates quickly enough
4. Not making proper eye contact which forces the guest to keep making gestures to get the waiters attention thereby paying almost no attention to the date
5. A waiter who makes mistakes and covers up with excuses is the biggest turn off on a date, so be prepared.
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