Perception of Beauty or Looks in Online Dating Sites
Most of the dating sites today have a selection where you can assign a grading with regards to your looks or beauty. This can be a tricky choice for many and in particular for females since the choice you make can determine your entire personality. For example, whether you come across as arrogant, boastful or just modest.
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Take the case of Samantha Brick an UK columnist who today created a backlash amongst the public when she declared that she could not help herself for being beautiful. It is one thing to know that you are beautiful but another to openly declare this to everyone. What is surprising is that she did not anticipate the hate emails for her post and she goes on to say that this just goes to prove her point. Unfortunately she has failed to realize that ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. This means that the trued judges of your beauty are the people who see you and not yourself. Maybe she should go and see the new Snow White movie.
The repercussions of her article in certain ways reflect people’s opinion on this subject and almost resembles other sensitive subjects such as racism and discrimination. It is like a personal opinion that you keep to yourself in case of offending others.
How can we learn from this and apply to our online dating profile. To be shrewd in this matter and despite the fact that dating sites do allow you to specify a grading regarding your looks, it is better to be modest. Even if many of your friends and relatives think of you as stunning looking, you should opt for something like ‘good looking’ if there is another choice for ‘very good looking’. Let’s assume that a woman selected the ‘very good looking’ option, now the point is that men who come to look at their profile may consider this woman to be very good looking indeed but then they can also assume this person to be too presumptuous. There is a tendency for others to be more attracted to someone else when they are modest about themselves. There is nothing more sexy than a beautiful woman who glows with a warmth and a radiant smile and effectively looking outside of herself.
For the case of men when it comes to grading their looks on their dating profile, the situation is starkly different. If a man was to put down ‘very good looking’ on their dating profile, it is somewhat of less importance than a woman because it is understood that men are permitted to have some room for showing off and having an air of arrogance. In fact, it would be more amusing to many women rather than a hotly contested topic.
I would be curious to know what would happen if a man were to put up a blog saying that he was very good looking. I am pretty certain that this person would not receive the same level of interest as Samantha Black did today.
Source dating article - “Beautiful’ journalist Samantha Brick: “This bile just proves I’m right“
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