We all make mistakes and in the areas of couple relationships or when we are dating, the nature of our mistakes can become even more exaggerated. The question that follows, is what is the best way to deal with shortcomings in people.

Firstly, you will need to understand that everyone has shortcomings and our point of reference for people’s shortcomings are entirely based on our own experience. For example, if we feel that we do this and that and our partner is not able to do this and that, then this becomes a shortcoming in the other partner in our own eyes. Equally, your partner will also have a list of potential shortcomings in you! This is where couples learn to adjust and understand that this is the way of the nature and by talking about the subject often helps one to make reconciliations.

Often couples will try to aim for an exchange the services of their shortcomings. For example, you may be a good cook, then I cook and do the dishes. However, in my experience, this division of labor can lead to many problems and often induces self-frustration and leads to complications in the relationship. I believe, it is ok to divide some of the chores of the household or other matters but be very careful in not to take this too far. After all, you are both a couple and not a relationship of convenience.

It is important to know that aside from giving each other tasks based on each other’s shortcomings, is that you continue to overlap and look at many tasks that you can do together. Going out on a date night is ok, but there are plenty of other activities that will forge the relationship between you and your partner and make your relationship a more committed one. Try to think outside the box and do something totally different together instead of the usual walks, trips and regular activities that you are used to. The act of giving and doing something together are some of the paramount ways to build strong relationships.

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I recently made some changes to the way I receive the Internet primarily because I became hooked to video streaming via Netflix. In addition to the basic needs of internet usage such as checking email, reading news, paying bills, chatting online and even dating online, there is another big growth area. The interest and fascination in this growing area is due to the convergence of the high speed internet, large screen TVs and a diversity of content available on the web.

Virtual Dating is not that far away from now

No longer are we tied to a handful of TV stations that control the way we watch TV, what we watch, how we watch because our choices have just increased many folds. We can now hook up our TV directly to the internet backbone and have a multitude of HD channels streamed instantly. With a high speed internet connection, the channels are surprisingly decent quality and I can foresee many interesting developments in this area. Even the traditional channels are understanding the significance of this change and have offered live streaming such as CNN, BBC etc.

It’s only a matter of time when singles like us will be joining the bandwagon and looking for online dates through this method. The trick with online dating is that it can become a bit routine and cumbersome to go and sit in front of your PC, open up the dating site and then login. This repetitive nature can lead to a loss of interest over time especially if nothing worthwhile materializes. However, with the advent of multi-streaming and many websites offering such service, online dating sites will take on a whole new meaning.

We could have a ‘push’ technology from online dating sites which will work more effectively when we are in a more relaxed mode. What this means is that the dating website can recognize when a request is made for the online services from your living room. This will trigger special code for the website to deliver very custom specific information direct to your TV screen. This may include recent online profiles which you can check from time to time. Essentially new ‘apps’ will be available for your smart TV in much the same way as we have apps for smart phones.

Expect in a few years to have more intelligence built into the devices, so when we are chatting with our date on the smartphone, we can follow this conversation to our TV and have all our history saved in one central location such as the cloud. Virtual dating applications will open up many possibilities to make online dating more interesting and engaging. The online singles today are more active than ever in utilizing the power of the devices connected to the internet. With this in mind, there will be a far greater reach for singles to explore diverse areas and to meet potentially like-minded singles all through online virtual dating.

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Busy schedules and fast paced life have left young singles with no time to socialize and think of their dating life. Young singles spend most of their time in offices where they come into contact with their coworkers a fair amount than anywhere else apart from the home.

Office Dating is on the rise

Here are some of the hazards of office romance –

1. You spend lot of your time with your coworker and need a change but your dating coworker would not give you the opportunity to socialize with others.

2. Dating your senior or junior coworker can drag you to unwanted situations where you might be accused of favoritism. If this goes up to higher management it could cost your job.

3. There is always a lot of politics involved in the office environment, and you will find yourself in a strange land and any career decisions that you make could be jeopardized.

There is an old saying that one should not mix business with pleasure. However there are also good reasons to date your coworker and we will discuss this in our upcoming article.

Please comment in this article as to what you feel would be the relationship breaker in an office romance.

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Twitter went crazy in the last 24 hours as there thousands of tweets coming for thousands on online singles and as you read this I am sure it would add thousands more. These all are coming with a special hash tag “#ConfessionNight” from different age groups but, the most interesting thing that I noticed was that they were coming from a majority of female twitter members.

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Here is lesson for online single as they try to find their match on online dating sites. When you visit the online dating profile don’t just go through the profile but, look for what you want. Very famous writers such as “Dale Carnegie” has written in his book that one of the most difficult tasks in the world is to extract gold from a gold mine. You need to dig tonnes of dirt just for that small nugget of gold but what you want is that nugget and that motivates you to dig. Similarly go through the profiles because you never know what you may find that may lead you to your potential partner. Even though you don’t get the early success with online dating sites as some might get wear a smile and stay consistent.

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Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2

Reactivity and proactivity can go much further than the role of wife-husband or girlfriend-boyfriend relationships. One of the reasons why people can be frustrated with their own lives is because they may be playing a more reactive role without them knowing about it. For example your job doesn’t dictate the real values instilled in you and all you are required to do is produce without asking questions. You may find over time that the frustration starts to creep in and you blame your situation to the outside world rather than yourself. Here is pause for concern, since your inner self is showing signs of defeat, you need to muster up and ask yourself what you must to do to change the situation. Many people who are in positions such as this tend to compartmentalize their life between work and play. In work, they don’t really care much about the outcome as long as they get by and tend to channel their inert energy into their homes or families.

Another important factor regarding this dual role is that some may take it upon themselves as a sign of weakness. A man who always like to think of himself as the more dominant role will find that being reactionary to any situation especially within the roles of the relationship will consider it as a weakness on his part. This may lead him to be overly domineering and stubborn without any social grace to manage conflicting situations that usually arise in relationships. Similarly a woman who may be frustrated with her previous relationships starts adopting a more aggressive stance in her current relationship and thus ignores the subtleties required to keep the relationship fluid and moving.

In short, the reactionary and proactive roles can come from a deep seated frustration within us and it’s important to understand that it is always a good idea to give as well as take.

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