Title – Mars and Venus on a Date

Author – John Gray, Ph.D

Summary

To find true and lasting love the author has effectively formulated a theme with Mars and Venus on a Date. For single men and women, the five stages of dating are attraction, uncertainty, commitment, intimacy and engagement. With a deeper understanding of each others behavior it is easy to interpret and act accordingly.

When one is not able to identify that the person is not right for them, both partners force themselves to alter situations and try to change the partner or themselves. This leads to frustration and negative feeling as no matter what you do the relationship simply falls apart. It is just not possible to fit a square peg in a round hole. Once you understand this, take the right steps and break the relationship on a note without regrets and resentment so you can look for the right person with an open heart.

When you are with the right person, you just know it. Forcing yourself to change for the sake of the relationship is the biggest mistake one can make. This simply lengthens the pain in a relationship which is ultimately going to end on a bitter note.

It is not at all necessary that you love someone for you to be in a relationship with that person. The more you get to know the person the more you realize that the person is worthy of your love and affection but might still not be the right person to share your life with.

Besides communication, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual chemistry have to match for a successful and fulfilling relationship which is elaborately explained here.

This book greatly assists the readers in identifying the right person who could be the soul mate for you. Going diligently thorough the five stages will help you be prepared and if required to end the relationship on a pleasant note. What We Can Learn, Every man and woman in a relationship wants a loving and fulfilling relationship. Once we understand how each one thinks and analyzes statements and situations, it becomes easy to comprehend and improve the relationship. Communication is the key to a successful relationship.

During the various stages of dating, continue to do the little things to make your partner feel special and experience the best in both. Make your dating experience positive and it becomes easier to find the special one.It is not at all necessary that when you love someone you must share your life with that person. You may love one but that person may still not be the right person for you. Confused people in love do not understand this and may become critical of a relationship.

If you don’t find the person to be right for you, do not end that relationship on a bitter note. Feeling resentful or guilty when you end a relationship makes it much tougher to move forward and find the right person who maybe just around the corner.

Trust your partner. When you try to make your relationship work the first rule to follow is to stop doubting and questioning your partner. This leads to a greater misunderstanding, irritability and sows the seeds of hatred. Communication, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual tuning are a must for a successful relationship. Physical attraction is short lived which can be sustained only when chemistry of the mind, heart and soul match with the partner. Know and understand your partner for a long term, successful and understanding relationship.

Remember loving someone does not mean marrying that person. Have a fulfilling relationship and make life simpler by understanding and identifying the subtle differences to make life happy and complete.

Dr Dato’s Comments

Men and women are a mystery to each other simply because the brains are programmed to think differently. On reading this book and trying to understand your partner, each one can analyze the situation and simplify the response rather than over-reacting and denting the relationship.

Understand the five stages of dating and you are sure to find your soul mate. After reading this book, it is easier for men and women to understand that if the person is not right for them then it is time to move on rather than having regret or to be hurt and upset. A beautiful secret has been revealed in this book that tells the readers: “good endings make good beginnings”. When a relationship ends either partner may have a feeling of regret or being used or feel angry as expectations were not met. The human nature forces us to close the heart and the mind is not ready to think freely due to the fear of being hurt again. End the relationship without resentment and move forward to find your true soul mate.

The techniques described here help the readers to realize and recognize if they are forcing themselves with the wrong person. Both try to change each other or self and end up being frustrated and going nowhere. This gives rise to negative feelings and makes the relationship worst. Following the identification tips can greatly help people who are entering into a relationship or are already in one and can see it go sour have the options of doing something about it.

Learn to identify and find your soul mate that may not be perfect but is perfect to bring out the best out of you. Follow the tips and find that the right person to make life loaded with happiness and worth living. Matching the spiritual, emotional, mental and physical desires leads to a happy and contented relationship. Don’t rush into a relationship no matter what your age. Open your heart, understand and then take the next step rather than a blind plunge.

Rating

3 out of 5 is the rating I give to this book. It generalizes the temperaments of people which really cannot be stereo-typed. Some different cases could have been given as examples with the psychological analysis. Although, what has been written deserves full marks for the majority of the readers to understand and implement into their own lives.

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“A person who walks into your world when the world walks out” was the definition of a friend. Gone are the days when a friend was defined as a person attached to another person by the emotions of just affection and respect. Today a friend is a person who fulfills your needs without any strings attached. This is what is referred to by friends with benefits.

With the fast pace of life, people are becoming more selfish and self-centered with no place for emotions in their relationships with friends. Today majority of the people search for people who will benefit them in someway or the other and call them as friends.

‘Friends with benefit’ is a totally different mindset and probably is fast becoming a norm in the world of friendship. Most people look for friends who will fulfill some of their needs. Some develop friendship with a person for business or commercial gains while others build a relationship only to kill the weekend or have fun evenings drinking and partying with them.

Another category of people enter into a relationship for the pure sexual pleasures and physical fulfillment. These type of friends are increasing in numbers by the day. The western world followed this openly for sometime now and even the culturally orthodox nations are now open to free sexual relationship.

‘Friends with benefit’ for business purpose or simply for fun and party and is more easily acceptable by the human brain. When friends enter into a physical relationship only for the fun of it, one of the partners naturally gets hurt and the relationship ends on a sour note. The movie ‘Up in the Air’ with actor George Clooney in 2009, typically personifies these types of relationship. The human brain is wired to develop affection for the person with whom you share a physical relation. When one partner gets emotionally involved and ends up getting hurt can signal the end of the relationship.

Analyze your own self and then decide if your psyche can accept ‘friends with benefit’ relationship before you take the plunge.

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Title – The Secrets of Happily Married Women
Author – Scott Haltzman, MD and Theresa Foy DiGeronimo

Summary
The simple seven ‘secrets’ revealed right at the beginning of the book can be correctly called the success mantra for a happy marriage. The wife simply has to follow these and it will become impossible for her husband to fall out of love even if he strives very hard to do so!

Men are wired to believe it is un-macho to express their desire to be cared for but that is the male’s deepest desire to be treated like a baby especially after a long, tiring and stressful day. The wife who can understand this and expresses that extra care adds to the happiness in marriage. Being gifted with an inborn sense of caring and concern, her little actions like just heating up the food for him or simply holding his hand when he is watching that football match gives a sense of security to the husband who basically is wired to be the care giver and protector of the family.

With changing times most women today do go out to work probably 50 hours a week while the husband is working from his studio at home. He has to understand that he cannot expect his wife to be a ‘do all’. This usually is the bone of contention and it is necessary for the husband to lower his expectations and be happy with a left over meal rather than expecting a hot, lavish dinner spread for him. If men can understand and accept this then sharing a life with a spouse is a real breeze.

What We Can Learn

Men don’t believe in words but only actions. So every woman must understand that when he picks up the laundry from the cleaners on the way for you or fill gas in your car or even cook a meal for you, it is because he loves you and that is his way of expressing it. Running these silly errands for their wife is all out of love though he may never say ‘I love you’ with stars in his eyes!

Don’t ever let your man feel incompetent. Gently tell him how to make a slight variation in the way he does stuff where you as a wife should be very specific. If you want him to get wheat bread, specify that in the shopping list. Just don’t tell him get bread as he will pick up the first loaf he sees and the moment he gets home, you will start cribbing which will lead to an argument. This will force him to keep away from household work and helping you. This will increase the burden on you and you as a wife will feel being taken advantage of. This book helps you to understand this and make married life more peaceful.

Women keep this in mind, women have a mesmerizing effect on men so even when you are on a romantic holiday with him and his eyes follow the other women, do not get offended. It is just the way the brain is wired and he may not have any real intentions to offend you. Learn to accept your man and even if his eyes follow other woman, his brain and heart will follow only you.

Every wife has her needs too. Once you understand your man and how his brain ticks, your actions and words of course will automatically convey to him what you expect.

Dr Dato’s Comments
This book has correctly conveyed that the brains of men and women differ significantly. Women’s brains are wired to ‘feel’ while men brains are wired to ‘think’. Once this difference is understood, women can bring out the best in her man and make the marriage a happy one.

A fantastic piece of advice this book suggests for all wives to follow is ‘reward the behavior you like and ignore the ones you don’t’. Men love to be appreciated even for the insignificant stuff they do. If he compliments you, just give him a hug and kiss every time and he will start paying more attention to you. This is called ‘animal behavior’ which is an insight used by animal trainers. No offense meant of course but it is the wiring of the male brain and once this is understood, it becomes a simple matter to understand any relationships and make it work.

The way men think as been put into words very well in this book that even men reading this will wonder how well the brain has been analyzed. Every wife or to be wife must read this book to understand her man and bring much happiness and contentment to her marriage.

All women who want to have a successful, happy and contentful marriage must read this book with careful attention. Once you as a wife can understand your husband’s actions you can make the changes in your behavior and his behavior will change accordingly. Always remember men don’t believe in words but only in actions. Analyze his actions and you will instinctively know what hurts him or what makes him happy.

With a calm and relaxed mind answer the quick quiz questions. This will definitely help you to get a better understanding of your man and improve your relationship tremendously. Nurture his need and both of you can live a life full of contentment.

Every married person or the one who is going to get married must read this book to understand why men and women think differently. This will help each person to rationalize the partner’s action and help to be more understanding rather than obstinate. Every relationship is like a car on a journey which requires both the wheels to be in sync to move ahead.
Secrets of Happily Married Women is a must read for all as it is a concise collection of notes and even the busiest woman can take out time to read this interesting book to improve her married life. Once she can decipher her man’s brains, it is simple for her to find ways and solutions for imbibing happiness and contentment in her marriage which is the ultimate goal.

Rating
The book scores 4 out of 5 as it reveals the secrets of a happy marriage in a simple and succinct way that everyone can understand.

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Men always complain that their female counter parts are jealous of them and of other women. Jealous is a feeling that directly originates from insecurity, largely because of emotional insecurity in the relationship when it comes to females. It is often termed as possessiveness.

You will hear most couple fighting over this issue often where a male always tries to sort out the issue with their wife or girlfriend, pretending there is nothing there.

Men are of this world and thing that drives a woman crazy are often enough to make men jealous too.

Men Jealous of Women - Too Close to Other Men

Men feel jealous when their ladies becomes too close to other men. Instances like physical touch or hanging out with them would make it hard for men. Other cases, like too many male friends on the social networking sites could spark off jealously. There are few men who can handle this kind of situation well but when their women start to give importance to other men it can become intolerable.

Men Jealous of Men– Too Many Factors

It’s a man’s world and when their ego clashes there is going to be big uproar.

In a recent survey 59% of male said that they were jealous of other men because of their beautiful girlfriend or wife. For men, the status and money matter a lot and that is why 35% men said that they were jealous of other men because of their financial status and material possessions. Only 6% feel jealous because some one is more educated than the other.

The recent hot discussion on Jumpdates forum also reveals the truth of “What makes men jealous”. Login and don’t forget to post your views to ignite this discussion.

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Browsing through hundreds of online dating profiles, examining profile pictures, remembering which profile offers the match for you, whom to contact, what to write in your first message and plenty of such questions would quickly become frustrating if you don’t have the skills.

The next best thing you can do is to outsource it. Yes, you heard it right, and like other works where you ask someone else who has the appropriate skills and experience, why not on your online dating too!

Outsourcing is not a new concept and nor outsourcing to finding your romantic partner is alien too . There are companies making a profit out of this business and more and more jobs found on freelancer websites where you can find such a virtual assistance.

There are celebrities who outsourced their dating to professional virtual dating agencies. In 2007 Tim Ferriss – NY Times best selling Author grabbed a lot of attention when we revealed the fact that he outsourced his dating to Diva.com.

From the top, everything looks rosy as you find a dating assistance that would do all the primary task of short listing the profiles, filtering messages and picking the right one that is a perfect match for you. They will help you in arranging the time, date, venue and even what you will wear. So what is next, will you hire their services to see how it feels on the first date or even how the kiss was. Will you able to know how the two of you can gel together and how chemistry with that person is?

Jumpdates cannot dispute the fact that there are singles that have benefited from services like these but we don’t know how successful they were when they started dating. Also, it can cost you a minimum of $360 to $1440 per month which can amount to a hefty debt if you are not lucky enough to find early dates that have have the potential for a good long-term match.

Reference Article - http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/36926587/ns/technology_and_science-tech_and_gadgets/t/no-time-date-online-outsource-it/#.UI_PhG_A9Co

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