Fig. 1 shows two individuals who are in the same environment and perhaps engaging in a conversation. As an example, if you find yourself on the receiving end of a conversation where you cannot have your say edgeways then you maybe talking to someone with a tendency towards narcissism. However, keep in mind that some people by choice are very quiet in nature and if someone chooses to do the talking, it’s because they may be feeling anxious. You could also argue that the person who is doing all the talking could have more empathy and allow the other person to say something to keep them engaged by asking questions. However, a measure of narcissism can be accurately determined if the behavior is consistent all the time independent of the people or circumstances they are in. You could say the individual is self-absorbed in what they have to say and is not really interested in other people’s opinions or thoughts. The illustration in Fig. 1 shows a triangular shape between the two individuals B and C with a higher point A. The idea of the triangulation will become more clear as it is explained with reference to our personalities and in particular our own level of awareness.

If you find yourself in the above category where you are constantly pushing your thoughts and not hearing other people’s thoughts, the illustration of Fig. 2 could be a good representation of you. Here the bold line stretches between the two individuals B and C and basically it means that you may be completely blind to the other person, lacking completely in any form of empathy. I do not believe any human can operate at this level since they need to be aware somewhat of their environment and have some social intercourse with other humans in order to get along. I would say that most animals would exist along this line where their existence is based purely on survival. Any interaction within their environment would be based on a reactionary method of survival where the degree of cooperation is far less and more about ‘I’ the animal.

Man’s greater mental capacity and the ability to think and reason have made them superior animals over all others. They are the only beings that have the capability to reach a higher form in their ability to think and act and according to this level of ability in each individual, the point A shown in Fig. 1 has some bearing to this discussion. Let’s assume that Point A with reference to the individuals B and C is the ultimate point where all humans strive for. This sets the line between points C and A where an individual’s ability of ‘total awareness’ can be measured by how far they are away from mid-point A. Think of point A as a point where if you have been fortunate enough to have reached it, your presence alone will have significant bearings on your environment. It is a point where you are completely aware of your own environment and the individuals in it, which includes you (B) and the other individual (A). Here you are completely at ease with yourself without any ego to distort your conversation with the other person.

The aim of the visualization is to help individuals understand where they are on the triangle however, be careful as to where you think you are on the line between B and A. I am of the opinion that the almost unachievable state of A, although looks to be relatively easily achieved is in fact on a logarithmic scale. This means as you get closer to A, the more difficult it is to reach it, think of it as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle (see references). In essence, this brings the very important topic of ‘spiritualism’ into our discussion. This implies that if you have ever achieve point A in your life, you would be in a state where you have reached the ultimate level of spiritualism and where you have achieved complete awareness. A condition that is not imaginable by the human being but where everyone indirectly are striving to reach this higher form and level. In provides some meanings to the religious and spiritual teachings that have shaped mankind’s thinking throughout the ages and still going strong today.

Tags: attraction, love, narcissism

Title –100 dating and Relationship Tips

Author – Marius Panzarella

Summary
There are plenty of women available if you are man enough to go looking for them. If you don’t approach women then your chances of getting them are nil. Approach women and half the battle is won. Also to women, please don’t make yourself easily available or the guy will lose interest in you very quickly.

Understand who you are, what you want and focus on the key areas of your life to draw women towards you. Tempt the woman to fall in love with you and don’t convince her to fall in love with you, let your actions do the talking.

Simple and easy tips given here will definitely help you to begin and sustain the relationship for a very long time. A complete and precise handbook with amazing tips is a sure shot winner for you to have a successful relationship when you find the right person to go on a date with.

There are tricks to keep in mind when dealing with a sexually aggressive woman by posing something challenging. This is a sure turn on for her and she will respect you all the more for that understanding.

Tips on good grooming and body language will go a long way in winning her heart. Read in between the lines and know when she is in love with you.

What We Can Learn

Recognize yourself and your needs and also increase your confidence and focus on your skills to be an achiever. This will attract women towards you. Let the woman of your dreams fall in love with you rather than you convince her that you are the right guy for her.

Eye contact is a must when you talk to her so let her move her eyes away before you do and this will give you the confidence to go ahead even if you have goofed up.

Don’t force yourself to be the Mr nice guy who does not offend women. Women hate such guys and get turned off easily. What they are looking out for is some spark in their relationship with a real man who has the ability to say ‘no’ when he wants to.

You can’t be a winner every time, if you are rejected by her take it as a learning lesson. Don’t be upset and lose your confidence, always analyze and you will know what kind of women are not your types rather you are not the types for those kind of women.

Don’t stress yourself out by trying to be perfect, it just doesn’t work in the real world. Learn the skills of communication and be cool to show you are cool. Learn how to handle situations where you are in an awkward position. Make her laugh as much as you can as wit really can be appealing to a woman.

Body language must be positive that conveys a lot to the potential partner. Be well groomed, clean and stylish. Kiss her well and she is yours. Don’t hurry in touching her or you may rub her the wrong way. Read her reaction and you will know whether to go ahead in this relationship or time to look for a different person.

Dr Dato’s Comments

With so many women available, a guy has to just look in the right place. Accept that men and women brains are wired differently. Women are attracted to guys who are achievers and have a body of confidence. Women fall in and out of love first then rationalize their emotions.

Most people build mental blocks where dating is concerned. Get over this mental block and open your mind to be receptive. Remember you cannot go back in time. Learn to avoid the same mistakes when flirting or during courtship. Don’t waste time in regretting but move ahead with renewed energy and a positive attitude and outlook.

Be well groomed, poised, relaxed, smile a lot and keep eye contact. All these work magic on a women’s psyche and compel her to be interested in you. Read books on body language and develop your body language accordingly to convey your sincerity and openness. Women need not be trained to analyze body language as they are simply blessed with this uncanny sense of understanding that is subtly conveyed.

You must understand her body language to rightly gauge if she is interested in you or not. Just her smile and flick of hair is not enough to show her interest in you. This book systematically describes how to recognize her interest in you and go ahead from a casual to a committed relationship.

Women love challenges and the aggressive woman will tease you and approach you. Instead of being uncomfortable simply challenge her and if she succeeds you are onto a winner. Understand the women mind and enjoy her companionship by making your relationship fun and interesting.

Communication skill has to be developed to build a rapport in any relationship. Find topics to keep communicating with the women and score brownie points for you.

Touch her in such a way that she does not feel cheap but beautiful. Step by step go ahead and let the relationship mature and bloom beautifully. Add humor to your conversation and that is the important building block of creating rapport with her.

Make sure you don’t fall in love with your best friend’s girlfriend as loyalty and trust are still important issues in this social world. Tell yourself repeatedly it is absolute no-no as the human mind can be gobbled up by guilt at any stage in life.
Human mind is very complicated and so apply the different techniques as per the situation to turn out a winning situation every time.

Also, keep in mind that not all women are for you, so if you find yourself working too hard with a woman you met, it is possible that she is not right for you.

Rating
4 on 5 for this handbook on dating and relationship tips. This book is excellent reading material for beginners as well as those who are already in a relationship. Follow the steps closely and you will find.

Tags: dating tips, relationship

One of the problems that we often face when we first start dating is how our expectations of the person can change over time. In a healthy relationship, the changes should be for the better but many of us can find themselves becoming more frustrated and not really understanding why. In addition to understanding the ‘signs’ that are evident in your partner and discovering the early signs of relationship compatibility which Dr Phil mentions there are more fundamental things that we need to focus on. These points came to me when I was watching Dr. Phil speaking to the hosts of the ABC show ‘The View’.

In one part of the interview, Dr Phil was told that the host (she) never came across such types of (manipulating) people in her life. Dr. Phil replied that this was because she was a very smart woman. I will go further on this point and start with the famous quote ‘birds of a feather flock together’. This to me means, ‘you will attract the persons in your life that are basically an extension of your personality’. Let me explain…

People who end up with a high quality of friends in their social circles without these destructive people because they essentially chose to do so. By their very personality, they will only attract good people and the people who want to pray on these people will find it hard to do so. So how exactly do these people achieve this point in life where they only have desirable people in their lives. For many people, the process is instinctive and people learn from an early stage and apply this to their daily lives. What about the other folks? For some of us, we need to change and train our ‘own thinking’ and we can only do this if we are realistic about ourselves. It essentially boils down to individuals who are confident and their own appreciation of self-worth (self-esteem). This is the reason why many folks who fall prey to ‘manipulating players’ are lacking in self-esteem but often the good advice stops there. It then becomes a subjective matter of how to increase your self-esteem where many books have been written on this subject. Self-esteem in my opinion cannot be taught in a rote manner.

Self-esteem (self worth) is increased only by your ability to appreciate yourself without anyone telling you how to do this. Take for example, when you pick up a hobby, your confidence in how far you pursue this hobby is only determined by you and no one else. When it comes to dating, many of us make the mistake of ‘advocating change within yourself’ through your dating partner. This profoundly changes the relationship where you can become a puppet for others to take advantage of you. Your ability to believe in yourself throughout the relationship and your stance in the relationship will determine the outcome of the relationship. Many of us with low self-esteem expects their dating partner to lift them out of their what they think is crummy life of an existence and show them a star studded life. Notice, how the responsibility of relationship now rests on your dating partner. It naturally follows that the ‘the power’ play is handed over to your dating partner who essentially has control over your lives. It is then an easy task for anyone versed in the art of seduction and manipulation to take full advantage of you. Consider yourself very lucky and fortunate if you fall into this category but your partner does not take advantage of your situation.

Some women make the mistake of shifting to the extreme where they become too adversary in their relationship and this naturally leads to frustrations in the relationship. One needs to re-examine themselves and understand what it is about them that leads to the wrong types of relationships. This is the best starting point and it will help you assess how YOU need to change that will attract the right kind of people into your lives.

We hope you have found this article useful and would love your feedback.

Tags: dating, Dr Dato, Partner, relationship, seduction, social circles

Title- Mistakes Men Make That Women Hate: 101 Style Tips for Men

Author - Kenneth J. Karpinski

Summary

This short and sweet handbook or call it a pocket reference guide for all guys who want to be successful in dating. The book talks about fifteen major mistakes men make and to avoid them so they don’t face failure while dating. Avoid these and you can win the date of your choice.

Hanging around at the bar and trying to hook up with every good looking woman is not always going to work . Be ready to be rejected as you have to have that something special to hold the attention of the lady.

Be confident, well groomed, know what to talk and the stuff that needs to be done when trying to date a woman. Observe the other guys who are a hit amongst women and learn their style.

Learn to start a conversation in a topic that she will also talk rather than you just lecturing or boasting about yourself and you achievements. Concise fifteen points are given with explanation on what not to do. Every guy can benefits from this book if he keeps these points in mind and follows the suggestions.

Remember no woman is interested in your boasting and your flamboyance on the first meet up. Nor is she looking out for a guy who is insecure and cannot take charge of the conversations. She does not want a date that has a pouch so guys, please hit the gym and get into shape if you want the woman of your choice.

After reading this book there are more chances of you guys becoming a success in dating.

What We Can Learn

Learn to be confident when you speak to her and to be a winner. Do something original to catch her attention and keep your wits around for her to be interested in you. Women hate it when the same lines are repeated like most men, she will simply shut off!

Learn to be polite and how to strike a conversation. Observe the other successful men and emulate their style, posture, poise and how they carry on a conversation with a woman.

Begin talking so that it becomes a conversation between the two of you. If you interest her, she will ask questions or just politely nod and maybe excuse herself and walk away. This means she is not interested in you, otherwise she will expect to meet you again and maybe next time give you her contact number or email.

Learn to be hygienic and well groomed. Trim your hair, have a clean car and a clean, organized home to come back to. Wear clothes that suit your personality and watch the other guys at the bar who draw the attention of women. Not the baggy clothed grays but bright colored clothed guys who smile and talk but are not rough or rowdy.

Dr Dato’s Comments
Women brains are programmed differently than men and women need more excitement and hate predictable guys or tacky conversations. They have this extra sense of knowing what the guy is going to say just buy analyzing his body language.

Build up your confidence but don’t be over confident or start boasting about yourself as that is the biggest turn-off for women. With a positive body language walk up to her and start a conversation gracefully. Gauge if she is interested in you or she is just being polite. If she is not interested, movie away gracefully.

Women love to contribute to the conversations; don’t begin by praising her and throwing compliments. She is not interested as she reads it as insecurity on your part. Strike a conversation so she can be part of it as she is just not interested in listening to your boasting or achievements.

To keep her interested in you, speak to her for two, three minutes and excuse yourself. This will trigger curiosity in the women brain and she will search for you at the next party or meeting. Don’t linger on too much with her because as a rule of thumb only one percent of the women are actually interested in dating.

You as a guy you must study books on body language to know if the woman is interested in you or if interested in going on a date. There are many tell-tale signs which usually hold well but sometimes they are deceptive too. In case you find all the signs such as flicking of the hair, leaning, bust out but it may still mean she is not interested in you. Be ready for accepting the rejection and move on.

Guys must give time once they approach a woman and not simply go after her and convey that they are interested in sleeping with her as soon as possible. Women like to be challenged and teased so use your conversation skill and remember to keep good eye contact.

All women get wooed by chivalry but do not go over-board by taking permission from her even when you need to use the rest room. This just conveys your insecurity and your neediness implying you are ready to give up all control to her on the very first meeting.

Also if you are married or into a committed relationship then discussing and taking her opinion is must. This improves your bonding and ultimately your relationship.

First impression is very impressionable on a woman’s mind. Be well groomed with proper clipped nails and hair. Carry yourself with confidence and poise. Be active so you are fit and don’t have that beer-belly that can be a real turn off.

Rating

Full marks scored by this amazing guide on the dating secrets for men. Men make the same mistakes again and again and unable to identify what is going wrong. This book helps them to precisely know which mistakes they are making and what is causing them to be rejected by women. A must read for all guys who want to find success in dating women.

Tags: dating, men, mistake, women

Title – How to Succeed With Women

Author – Ron Louis and David Copeland

Summary

Like a hunter looking for signs where the catch is available, identify the qualities you want in a woman and without wasting time look for that kind of woman only. If you know the goal, it is easier to walk that path.

Be successful in life and take pride in whatever job/work you do. Your shoes, car and home will reflect your very character. Be dressed stylishly so as to enhance your personality and this is a sure to turn the heads of women. Maintain a high level of hygiene and be well groomed always. Use a perfume that suits your style and body odor. Perfumes excite women but can also turn them off too.

Think of the outcome of your action before you act. Men who are nice and interesting are good as friends but women need more of fun and excitement to be intimate and sleep with the guy. Understand the woman’s mind and change your attitude to find the woman of your dreams but of course you have to be the man of her dreams too not the whiner who believes that gaining sympathy will lead to sex.

Remember what not to talk in bed and how to win her willingly to come to bed with you and maintain the desire to keep spending more time with you.

What We Can Learn

Though women are not so mysterious, men believe so. The tips given here are almost sure shot ways to keep a long term relationship with women. Begin with the correct way to ask a woman out on a first day. The rule of ‘first impression is the last impression’ is universally applicable.

Flirting successfully without vulgarity can be very seductive to women. As per your personality, apply the tricks and boost your self-esteem when the woman of your dreams is drawn towards you.

Don’t be at the mercy of women to have sex or companionship. Keep your frustrations at bay and succeed in your relationship with women and they will be more attracted to you.

Be an effective and stylish seducer. Be well groomed and always smelling good to attract her. Make flirting disaster-free with a crash course in romance. How to kiss and be the man of her dreams in bed. Convert a casual relationship into a committed one or breaking up with her and moving forward too.

Keep a job and home you take pride in. Keep your shoes, car and home well maintained like a successful man and not like a teenager living in a dorm.

When a woman rejects your sexual advances, it is not rejection but a path to sexual prosperity. Women love the feeling of ‘hard to get’ which basically puts them on a high. Win her trust especially if you want the relationship to go from casual to commitment.

Remember dating is like a game. This too requires skill and planning and play your game right and you will be winner.

Dr Dato’s Comments

This book can be rightly called as a personal dating coach. Almost all the situations and tricks have been written from a vast pool of real-life experiences. Every woman loves to be seduced and doing it the right ways trigger the feel-good factor in her brains and she is bound to be attracted towards you and looks forward to spending time with you. Relationship with a good beginning is the key to a successful relationship.

To win a women over men have to be exciting, romantic and fun to be with and not just nice and interesting. Mr nice and interesting guy will have many friends and be addressed as Mr wonderful but women’s brains are wired in such a manner that one who can make moments fun and exciting is what turns her on and keeps her coming back for more.
Be yourself as this will boost your self-esteem and you can’t fake all the time. Somehow women have this uncanny sense to realize when you are putting up a front, so beware!!

Women are not interested in your personal problems if you are using that as a bait to win them over. They will be compassionate but will not be interested in sleeping with a whiner. Being honest is required but not with tales of your woes.

Build your confidence and be open to discussing and talking and even if you are a rock star with women all around you, if you lack confidence then you cannot even think of approaching and talking to her. Women love humor so add wit to your talk and improve your chances from being friends to sleeping with her.

Change your attitude towards life and make it fun and playful and apply the same when perusing sex. This is a sure shot tip to be successful in life and with women too. Don’t get desperate for sex because women with a sadistic trait will make you life miserable. She will use your money and time and happily dump you.

Remember men and women’s brains are wired differently and women will not give the same indications as men. A gesture by a man will not necessarily mean the same is being conveyed by a woman. Don’t make the mistake of reading this gesture in a man’s way but get into the shoes of a woman and then analyze it to reach the correct conclusion.

With so many different examples and situations in this book most men can be successful in a relationship with women. Remember to change your attitude and be yourself to win the woman your heart desires. Planning for the foreplay and after play is also very important for you to succeed in the sexual relationship.

Rating
Three out of five stars for this book but can be a bit too lengthy and reader attention can be distracted. Reading in parts is helpful for the reader to get more out of this book.

Tags: casual commitment, Dating Help for Men, Succeed With Women, Understand the woman’s mind, writers of How to Succeed With Women