We tend to generalize and say that men are more left-sided brain and women are more right-sided brain. With left-sided brain being analytical, logical in it’s thinking while the right-sided brain is more creative, intuitive and expressive. However, recent studies in the field of psychology have shown that the brain is not so strictly divided as was previously assumed and that both are needed for the proper functioning of human beings be it male or female. You can learn more about this from the excellent article below..

http://psychology.about.com/od/cognitivepsychology/a/left-brain-right-brain.htm

I am actually very pleased to learn this actual piece of fact since it explains the phenomenal increase in my passion for the arts and other creative arts/science. As I have over the course of my career stayed true to my interests in science and technology, my interests in arts has always been there since I was a child. At one time, my arts teacher was very dismayed and talked to my parents about taking art courses for further studies. Naturally this was not to be and I set a path of high-tech and science which I must say was not a regrettable decision because I had tremendous interest in these areas. Recently, I have been bursting with creative interest in arts, psychology, cosmology, evolution and anything else that have tickled great minds over the centuries. But let’s not get too distracted from the main subject.

From my experience, I can safely say that there is no such thing as being too left-sided brain or too right-sided brain. It’s really a matter of the individual in which direction they want to go. I am a firm believer that no person is limited by it’s capacity to do anything it sets out to do. In other words, if you firmly believe in something and passionate about it, you can achieve your goals and desires. I am beginning to sound like a ‘be-positive’ guru but the sentence is fully loaded with true definition and meaning. I would encourage you to repeat the words again and then translate this to high-achievers you have met in your life. You will see that there is a direct correlation between the two.

I am the first to dismiss the person who brought out the notion of the left and right sided brain. This idea just caught on with the masses but the damage has been done. It has pigeon-holed people into distinct genders and placed arbitrary qualities that are distinct of the genders and from an early age biased people’s thinking that they meet some criteria. How sad, perhaps, if that wasn’t the case we would have a fusion of gender interaction like we have never witnessed before. For example, men being more expressive, doing housework, needlework etc and women fixing things around the house, holding high-powered positions etc. But then again we need to be sensitive to each others needs ie. men are physically stronger than women, they may not like chatting so much and interacting with people so much as some women do. The point I am trying to make is that there should not be any ‘differentiation’ of gender interests from an early age, we should encourage our children to be interested in anything that interests them as long as it does not endanger them.

I would love some feedback on this topic.

Tags: gender roles, human development, left side brain, right side brain

free dating sites - are they worth it

If anyone says that money is not an issue when it comes to purchasing, buying etc they are probably not being truthful. The truth is, money is important to all of us and it is no different when it comes to spending it on online dating sites. Okay, maybe the figure for joining some of the top paid sites are like $30-$50 a month, which doesn’t seem a lot, but it is still money at the end of the day. What you should be asking yourself is.. if you spend the money will you be get what you are looking for? It’s a tough question because you don’t know the outcome only after you have parted with your $30. Her are my thoughts on this:

Ask your friends:

Your friends have probably joined some of the dating sites and they can offer you some very good feedback.

Forums on free dating sites:

Post questions on forums and other online sites that allow you to post your questions. Ask how others how they have found the site and how it has worked for them.

Join free dating sites:

I am not saying that just to promote free dating sites, but I think this bit is important for several reasons. If you are new to online dating, I suggest you try out the free dating sites. This can really get you up to speed with some of the unfamiliar features that you are not used to. For example, searching, saving searches, messaging and all the other nuances of online dating. The time you spend on a paid dating site will be wasted as you become familiar with all of the tools and this is where a free dating site can help you become acclimated with all the features.

Okay, so I am hinting that you would eventually need to join the paid dating sites, which is partly true. The important thing to remember is that not all sites are equal and this is even more so when it comes to free dating sites. Unfortunately, the fact that they are free means that you will get an extremely diverse range of websites that go from one end to another ie. from very bad to very good. One of the good things of Jumpdates.com apart from being the oldest free dating site still in existence today is that it has unique features that sets it apart from other free dating sites. This is the ‘activity’ meter that applies to all members of this dating site. Just like a rewards card in Safeway or rewards in credit cards, the site clocks up your points based on activity. For example, once you join and you start using the site, checking out profiles, messaging and reading forum boards, replying etc, you start accumulating points. This gives you a favorable position in the searches and anywhere else that other members are looking for their potential mates. Plus, this gives other members insights into your interests ie. forum subjects, your detailed profiles and more which is good news for all the members of the site. If you have not joined Jumpdates, I encourage you to do so. Have a wonderful day!

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We routinely hear that the top dating sites on the planet (maybe an exaggeration) advertise on TV how many singles they have matched up and have led to marriages. Some of these claim to have ‘married off’ a million or so members just in the last year alone. For some of us, those figures can entice us to join or speculate as to how effective these marriages will be in the short and long term. After all, our society has such a high divorce rate that many choose to remain single. Why go to all that trouble?

For naysayers to online dating sites, you should consider some of the advantages and disadvantages first before deciding.

Advantages

• Online dating allows you to browse ‘before you buy’; This means you decide if you like a profile or not and if you should contact the member, you have total control.
• You are not compelled to reply to users if you do not want to, the choice is yours. This applies more to females.
• Your choice  of profiles is broadened from your ‘local crowd’ to a member base that can be anywhere in the country or world.
• You can really put the member to the test ie. chat to them for a few days, or a month until you are comfortable in meeting them - this is recommended if you are serious about a long term mate

Disadvantages

• You maybe showered with too many profiles and have a hard time deciding - I wish I could say this was true for men, but women yes.
• You may not distinguish what is true or false on their profile page - but then again you have time to screen them out.
• You may not like the ‘digital’ way of meeting folks since this can feel artificial - but you do get to meet them in person if you so wish.

Ok, so there you have it a set of snippets to help you get launched onto the online dating scene. For those astute readers among us, you will probably see that the ‘Disadvantages’ are not really disadvantages but are potential advantage points. However, I was speaking from the newbie point of view where they may consider these as disadvantageous at first but in time will become advantages when they all join the club!

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Windows 10 is here and if you have been lucky to download this free operating system OS, you will realize that it changes the way you view, surf and use many of the dating websites. For those of you who have not ventured into this new OS, you may have reservations in the way it affects how you use your current PC or laptop. It’s an important decision to make and you need to be sure that you will be getting the most out of your previous OS as well as extra benefits. Here are very important points to consider when you switch to the new Windows 10.

1. Check that your OS is compatible with this upgrade. Anyone who has a Windows 7 and 8 will be able to upgrade for free to Windows 10.

2. If you are a Windows 7 user - Check out the new OS to see if you like it or not. Unfortunately, we are not able to do this unless one of your friends or colleagues have one for you to try. But then again, you can always visit Best Buy and try out their laptops. Make sure the stores allow you to browse the internet. Note* If you do login to your dating sites in a public laptop or PC make sure to log-out for your own safety and protection.

3. Here is the most important step - The dating sites that you use on a daily basis, I suggest you try them out and see if there are significant user changes to the OS that makes it easy or difficult for you to access. Luckily there should not be any accessibility changes to any of the sites since your favorite browsers would not change. However, one of the issues that we have seen with the new OS is that it can change the trackpad settings and the controls you are familiar with may not be easily reproducible. We expect to bring a detailed article on this issue later but it does not affect all laptops.

4. Find out the path to the upgrade - Luckily the upgrade is not that bad. We were able to complete the download and install in one morning. However, make sure that you select the correct privacy options at the end as you logon to the new OS for the first time. Otherwise you will be sending your click activities on dating sites to our big brother Microsoft.

5. Finally - Once you have logged into the new OS, it should keep all your data, so there is nothing to worry about changes to your desktop.

Fortunately, we can conclude to all our members of Jumpdates and other dating site members that upgrading to the new Windows 10 is not that bad at all. We think that the new new OS has some nice features and brings benefits of the Windows 8 (if you are a Windows 7 user) and the missing components of Windows 7 (if you are a Windows 8 user). It combines the benefits of Windows 8 with Windows 7 to make for a good interface for doing your daily tasks and most importantly using all those familiar dating sites.

Surfing online dating sites on the new Windows 10

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Daily workload, stress, meeting project deadlines and generating more profit in a fumbling economy can take the fun out of your life and if both the partners are working than the situation can be worse. Candle light dinner, weekend outings and cosmopolitan magazine tips to spice up your sex life won’t work if there is an emotional disconnect that has created the vacuum in the relationship.

Romantification of vacation: How to Guide

One of the best way to get rid of this vacuum is fill it with some fresh air and rediscover the relationship. Taking a break and going to a location where you have always wanted and especially not with no baggage of office work can help in a great deal.

How to prepare for a romantic vacation

1. As you are going on a break and likely to be longer than usual make sure you take your finances seriously. Ensure you don’t run out of money away from home and have a backup plan for these kind of situation as you can spend some extra money on leisure.

2. Choose the location that both of you can enjoy and remember its all about “WE” on this romantic holiday.

3. Shopping is one of the best ways to set the mood for a holiday, for a change shape by his/her choice.

4. Plan complete holiday in advance taking help of tour operator to avoid last minute hassles.

5. If you are going to a place where languages will be a barrier, try to learn basic things.

How to Make Holiday Romantic

1. Spend time to relive some old moments and reminisce the love that sparked between you. Both of you might feel you guys did lots of stupid acts to get each others attention.

2. Use photos to rekindle the love, we get stimulated easily by visual imagery.

3. Small talk with a romantic walk close to nature creates the perfect setting with the sun going down in the background.

4. Music is the best way to get in the mood before you set the night on fire with some steamy love making Kama-Sutra positions. With smart phone apps, it’s so easy to try new positions as the Kamasutra apps are just a tap away.

Don’t forget to add comments and your real experiences to rekindle the old love.

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