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There have been many books written on the subject of relationships, sex and dating but few have been written about ‘game play’ relationships that are part and parcel of some men and women in the dating world.

Men play a different set of games with women to attain their goals and be starkly different to men.

Before you decide to commit and feel head over heels with someone, it is a good idea to understand where the person is coming from and in this way protect yourself from these predators.

As a first suggestion, it is recommended that you pull back your reins
in your immediate sexual urges and fool-hardy love and try to understand the person first.

There are good reasons when we are young why our elders repeatedly tell us to take time before committing to any relationship.

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You can often see tell-tale signs of women who are manipulators when it comes to the game of sex and love.

Here, you will find a list of common signs and reasons how this comes about and to be on the alert.

Picking up on past behavior and experiences.

Here you can learn a lot simply by listening and paying attention.

Get her to talk about love and relationships since this can be a favorite topic of women and she will likely give you her take based on references to the past.

Unlike men who like to fantasize what the ideal conditions for love and relationships are, women like relate this to past and present experiences.

Because women are generally down to earth in these areas, it also happens to make them more cunning and manipulative in the game of love and sex.

If they are good readers of your goals and intentions, they can easily get you to be hungry for more.

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(1) Honesty and truth principle

Women understand that it’s important to be honest and truthful in a relationship, if she has any interest in the longevity of the relationship which in most cases they are.

In this case, you have the added advantage to find out from her past experiences and try and formulate a real character assessment of her.

Some woman, do not like to disclose something in the past and will signal an emotional appeal for truce.

This is also a manipulative gesture on their part and they will use it to skip the subject or try and get your attention to some other thing.

In all likelihood this comes from growing up as a child and understanding the power of emotional tantrums to draw attention.

Some women will continue to use this to garner attention and can also do so intentionally.

Of course having expectations of honesty from the other side implies the same behavior and characteristics from your end.

Do not expect that honesty and transparency should only come from the woman.

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(2) Checking for signs

There are discrete signs as mentioned in the book by Sex-ploytation by Mat Fitzgerald who is also a contributor to AskMen.

When you are in a relationship there are ways to determine the manipulative type by checking yourself before committing to a relationship.

If you don’t read your inner ‘red alert’ signals that come to you during a conversation, you may find yourself in a mince before you even know it.

Firstly, you have to remember that a partnership requires a 50/50 contribution from each other and you should use this as a barometer for all successful relationships.

If you are not getting as much as you give, then the relationship is likely to be skewed in one way.

Of course this dose not imply a tit for tat behavior, it’s just a measure of how much effort you are making as opposed to the other person.

If you find yourself into a relationship of 3 months and you are doing all the chasing, then something is clearly wrong.

To an observer outside this seems obvious, but it is actually quite hard when you are in a relationship and your head is spinning with all kinds of emotions.

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If you are finding that you are doing all the chasing, you could be in a relationship where the woman is playing a mind game with you.

However, the situation can also arise not from mind games but from the woman’s real intention of controlling the situation.

This can be the case where the woman is actually so much into you but she is too afraid of ‘letting go’ in case the outcome did not work to her advantage.

This comes about from insecurity in the woman but can have disastrous consequences to the relationship.

The signals to watch for include..

(a) a feeling that you are always being tested
(b) a barrage of negative criticisms
(c) a feeling of being inadequate with the other person
(d) sudden shifts in emotions from the other side

The whole situation is exacerbated if the man takes this sitting down without confronting the issues.

The same would apply for women too.

In actual fact, if you develop strong feelings for that person and you have a sense of insecurity yourself, you are more likely to give in to these issues.

This can only make the situation worse while a resolution seems unclear and you continue to battle with your inner feelings.

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