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It may come as a surprise to you that what your idea of a good fashion sense is completely contradictory to what others may think.

I was once woken up to this rude awakening when a friend of mine who is very astute in this area told me that I needed a wardrobe makeover.

one can perceive something from a different angle than others

I actually felt that I had quite good common dress code and it was a cut above the others. In actual fact, I was dressed usually better then most other men, but I didn’t know that I could do better.

Out of curiosity rather than anything else, I gave the green light to my friend and went with him to some clothing shops and left it to him to pick out some clothes for me.

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It became apparent that we needed to set aside a budget for the new clothing look that I was going to adorn and had no idea what that was going to be like but kept an open mind.

Our first trip took us to Macys and I was surprised by his approach to selecting clothes were very different to mine.

people's shopping habits vary and so do their clothing style

Typically, I would take time and just do some simple ‘window shopping’ first and then decide what to purchase.

My friend was quite methodical and precise as to what kind of look I should have and his shopping style was that of someone darting to one shelf to another knowing exactly what he wanted.

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Within about 10 minutes, he had selected a shirt and pants for me to try out in the fitting rooms.

I put them on and looked into the mirror and was pleasantly surprised by what I saw.

We then proceeded to do the remainder of the shopping and included a pair of shoes, belt and some expensive after-shave and balm.

men need a good set of clothes to attract women

I found myself asking some very pertinent and personal questions to myself following this episode.

I admittedly ‘dressed down’ thinking that I was going to draw undue attention to myself when wearing clothes that my appear ‘too flashy’.

Hence, I would ignore such clothes from my shopping list when I usually go out shopping for clothes.

The other point is, I also dress more for comfort.

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one learns from their mistakes and past experiences

Several key lessons were learned from this shopping venture with my friend.

(1) I found that ‘dressing up’ was not a big deal as I had expected and my previous concern that ‘people’ somehow thought you were too pretentious wearing such clothes was somewhat becoming a myth.

(2) The new dress code had helped me have a renewed sense of confidence and I did notice people unconsciously taking me more seriously at work.

(3) I could easily tell that some women were drawn to this kind of look and also the smell of my new cologne where I received some positive feedback.

(4) I found that it is not only the clothes but also the style and shape of the clothes relative to your body shape that are important.

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So the lessons that we can take away from my experience as well as help other men is that to be very open mind to other people’s suggestions and don’t have fixated by one look that you have held for years.

fashion has changed over time

Our thinking is shaped by many years of habits without paying any attention to it as much and this thinking may not be the views shared by other people.

Clothes fashion changes significantly over time, and if you don’t believe me, just pull up some movies going back 10, 20, 40 years and you will see how people dress.

You will also see that people’s hairstyling changes significantly over time.

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