Title – He’s Just Not into You

Author – Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo (From the team of Sex and the City)

Answer to Your Question Ladies Why - He’s Just Not That into You

The first impression, when you start dating, dating for some time and frequently getting physical with each other and even if you are not in a committed relationship every women have in their mind the question that keeps recurring again and again..“is he really into me”. This book is a perfect guide or call it a pocket reference book for those people with the entire top 12 questions answered in an easy to understand and digestible manner.

What we can learn

Do you ever wonder why your boyfriend does not ask you to go out with him? Or just can’t find the time to call you and keep making excuses of being too busy? Ladies during their dating life would certainly come across these situations but, often fail to analyze the situation and as results don’t made strong decisions that need to be taken care of right away.

How much time does your boyfriend needs to call you if they are in love, even if they are always busy? Couple of minutes from their daily schedule is sufficient enough. If he loves you he would say it out to the world and he would have no reservations to ask you and take you out.

Here are women who try hard to tell their hearts that he might be too shy to call for the first time or he doesn’t want to ruin his friendship? This is nonsense, the entire word is run by men and how can that species of humans be too shy and every man want their life partner to be like true friends with whom you can share everything.

This is a compilation of top 12 questions that make women crazy and would truly help them to find that person she is dating is of marriageable material or not.

This book is not for those ladies that are not serious about their relationship and if they are dating for fun, sex, money and just want to enjoy life without falling into a commitment trap.

The thing that would attract most females toward this book is its real problem solving ability by answering questions like “why didn’t he call me?” or “what’s the reason behind his ignorance?” Men don’t need much reason to make them ignore you or don’t feel like making a phone call as they think from their mind that runs the entire world. They don’t believe in emotional tanglement or something that is mainly influenced emotionally. If men don’t find or take you as marriage material they would keep their distance with you but, at the same time if they are looking for buddies with all the fringe benefits they won’t waste time muddling inside your bed sheets.

Dr Dato’s Comments

Good thing about this book is that it sets the expectation right at the beginning with a tag line “The no-excuse Truth to understand Guys”. The major portion of the book is written by the male author “Greg Behrendt” and Liz Tuccillo who are instrumental in giving the female side in a tacit way. Duos are from the team of writers “Sex and the City” and know the modern day relationship compilations and success mantra.

Simple yet a realistic approach of the book make it an interesting read and easy to understand. Book represents men as a species that runs the entire world and if they decide to do something they surely can do it. All those men who give excuses of not being in touch are just simple signs that he is not into that women.

Most interesting chapter is on cheating, there are men who justify cheating as they only had sex with no stings attached and no emotional bond. This can not be called cheating. As relationship expert I have never understood this theory and I am sure other experts would agree like Greg in this case. When you make a physical relationship not matter once or twice, in every business trip or even without feelings it should be considered cheating. The worst part is men fear while they cheating for the first time and with time there is no feeling of regret.

Overall this book is must read not only for females but for those men who want to show their ladies that they really love them but, are too dumb to find out the ways. There are few incidents where Greg was bit hash on men and their behaviors that are something won’t please much other masculine community.

Rating

Overall the book scores 3 out of 5 as being the pocket reference guide for ladies which answers their most annoying question of their dating life…He is not really into you?

Tags: books on relationship help for women, Greg Behrendt, He's just no into you, Liz Tuccillo, long distance relationship advice, relationship advice expert, Sex and the City

Women are the most volatile in nature and what they needed five minutes ago are different to what they need right now and you are not sure where this will end up in the next few moments or so. On the other hand men would come to any decisions most likely stick by it but this discussion is left for another time.

Top Three Qualities Women Look in their Future Husband

1. Rich and Mature – Women always want their men to be mature so that he does not tire of her foolish and stupid acts which don’t always make sense. In short he should not lose his temper and being rich also, he will ensure that his better half gets what she needs.

2. He should behave like Gay – This is interesting as she always want their men to go shopping with them, talk to her four hours and cry along with her. Men actually don’t like any of these characteristics or behavior, however it does not mean that men don’t like shopping, of course they do. However, they are clear in their mind and what they need rather than be in an unknown state of mind.

3. He should be Macho – Women love these guys and they want their men to perform good on the field as well as in bed. Women are always on the hunt for muscular men and take their fantasies to bed when they are together.

These are the top 3 qualities women look for when they look to find their Mr. Perfect and no one should deny this fact. Comment on this and add a few more of such characteristics that women want to see in their future husband.

Tags: how to choose future husband, husband material, macho men, what women want

Title – Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Author – Steve Harvey - Famous comedian, Author and radio host

Relationship advice book review

Summary

Act like a lady, think like a man was published in 2009 and especially designed for ladies who want to understand men and how they see relationships, love, sex and other emotional turmoil in their lives.

This book is a compilation of real life examples and experience of Steve Harvey and is beautifully packed into a 248 page book that explains the male psychology about relationships with ladies. Fifteen chapters of the book are created and arranged in a manner that flows well and make excellent reading for women eager to understand men.

Throughout the book Steve Harvey has emphasized on the basic differences of men and women psychology. According to him men as simpler to understand and women are a more complex species, which seems to be universally accepted by everyone. He also points out the basic differences between the way men and women love each other. The chapter “Our love isn’t like your love” set the mood of the reader by making it a more compelling read.

Just like his punch line in the book that men are simple to understand Steve’s book is easy to understand to the complex species that he calls “women”. There are plenty of good sections in the book that explain the need and priority of men at different stages and situation of the relationship in their lives. His microscopic approach to help ladies in understanding men has been the main attention grabber of this book.

What we can learn

The major part of the book talks to women and explains to them that men are simple in their behavior and attitude to understand.

Every man should ask these three questions to himself:- what am I, what I do and how much I make. Steve refers to this as the DNA of every man and this defines the role of men being a protector and provider for his family.

Act like a lady, think like a man teaches the overall differences of men and women when it comes to love, relationship and sex by giving simple but yet real life examples. Here is one from the top drawer, women have always wanted to know that if he is really into them or not? Well it’s not that difficult, go with him in public and make sure he introduces you to his friends. The title that he gives you ensures that you get your answer. Or here is another one, ask your friends to talk bad about you and try noticing his reaction, he would not like to hear a single word if he thinks he is in love with you.

Steve very meaningfully explains the different phases like, relationship and what both men and women looking from their relationship. A section where Steve tries to explain why men cheat and how to find if your guys is in love with you in a section called the “ninety day rule” are highlights of this book.

This book is also perfect for guys who want to be MEN and women as it explains what men should do to be MEN and what women really want in men.

Dr Dato’s Comments

The entire book is like a joyful ride, just when you think you had enough another twist and mind blowing fact with real life example is presented to you. The good thing about book is its compilation of all these real life examples.

Being in a relationship offers different emotions, responsibility and needs and there has to be a different approach to handle them by men and women. Women should expect men to sit along side her and make her feel happy when she is crying and listen to her gossip everyday. Men are not made for this but real men would ensure that his lady should hardly cry at all.

While reading the book from the male perspective you could feel that every word is true and accurate and relates to your life as it really happens. However, there are times when a woman is too much male centric and makes you feel that sex is the biggest priority for men in a committed relationship.

Overall this relationship advice book by Steve Harvey is much a good read to those who are in a committed relationship and in pursuit of true love.

Rating

Act like a lady, think like a man scores 3.5 out of 5 as some of the stand out section like DNA of men, sign of love and type of women and the last section where there is a series of questions that normally women have when they fall in love or want to understand men.

Tags: Act like a Lady Think like a Man, relationship help for women, Steve Harvey, understanding men psycology

Most of us don’t like a player but there are few exceptions which are obvious. How can you like someone after breaking many hearts and sometimes leaving them in psychological turmoil? There are few who do like this just because of their Casanova image.

How Lover becomes a player…It Not Easy

1. Multiple heart breaks – This is very much different from multiple fractures as this can certainly break you up as an individual. You love someone and find out that he or she is not into you. This is fine but what if this happens to you 10 times.

2. Childhood without Love – This is also a possibility, being a child he/she must have seen so many fights between their parents that lead to their divorce and that makes a player think that love don’t exist in the real world.

3. Love Materialist Life – One common characteristic that sets the player and lover apart is their love for money and it’s not easy to identify with. You can refer to them as conmon with lots of love in their heart and money in their mind.

4. Love Flesh not Feelings – For some reason physical attraction can overpower the inner beauty for many and it happens to many. You will find out there are people who started loving their partner for their perfect chemistry but soon only love to make sex without any real feelings.

Different players have different stories to share, we did compile a few here to make them aware what they should not be doing. Add your comments to this article and share your views why a lover becomes a player.

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Tags: casanova, conman, lover, player, romantic relationship

It’s no wonder that divorce rates are going high as singles think after they are making a decision to commit. There are many who decide to commit and after only a few months start thinking that their decision was whether right or wrong. This could have all been avoided if they did the thinking before committing.

How do you take decision in relationship

That is why you should take decisions that are perfectly balanced between that feeds you emotionally and that which proves to be intelligent so both of your can benefit tremendously in the short and long term.

Here are top emotional questions you should ask.

1. Do I love him/her or it’s just an attraction that is not going to last more than a few weeks.

2. Are we understanding each other or not. Understanding is not about knowing the facts of likes and dislikes only but way beyond that. It’s the chemistry and personality match that make two people stay together in the long-haul.

3. If both of you care about your past you should both know about it rather than creating any misunderstandings later on.

4. Do both of you have the same emotional quotient needed for a balanced and steady relationship.

Here are top questions to answers while making intelligent decisions regarding your relationship.

1. Don’t flow in the rush of emotions and ask yourself that are you prepared for the responsibility that follows.

2. Every relationship goes through good and bad times, ask yourself that are you capable of resolving those issues on you own or will it break down through time.

3. Are you equipped to give each other moral and emotional support? This is tricky as no one will answer in the negative but on the testing day you should perform the role of protector and carer without any issues.

We are sure that there are many things that you would love to add to this list to make decisions in an emotionally balanced way as well as in an intelligent way. Here is your chance to make it richer by commenting on this with more real life issues.

Tags: dating help for singletons, emotional relationship, relationship help for singletons