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Pardon my French, we are all English here! - Part 2
Sunday, April 29th, 2012
Pardon my French, we are all English here! - Part 1
Here in the USA, language is often classed as not the eloquent delivery of it but rather its meaning and purpose. However, the way it’s spoken and delivery of the message can have its importance especially when you are trying to influence the many. In short, language in its purest form is to convey a sense of purpose and meaning to the recipient and in the areas of courtship and dating has special significance.
We have heard the same advice time and time again with regards to preparing for a date and that is to be yourself. However, for those who feel they don’t have the ‘gift of the gab’ may feel that communication may mar the outcome of the date. That is not entirely true and you need to be weighing up the eventful date as you traverse through it and not before. What this means, is that don’t make overbearing decisions as to the outcome of the date and you need to go with the flow. You may find that your other dating partner has similar qualms as yourself, or he/she is very much into you, you just don’t know. These will enable you to be a better communicator and take the lead and show yourself to be a true charismatic character in the moment of time.
In the language of love, sometimes language itself is not always needed. You may find that your partner is perfectly capable of doing many things that you were not able to do and vice versa. The communication part of language can come in many forms and disguises and one needs to be aware of this and the relationship will flourish without you even knowing it.
Tags: charismatic character, courtship, courtship and dating, Pardon my French, relationship, USA dating, we are all English here! - Part 2
Pardon my French, we are all English here! - Part 1
Sunday, April 29th, 2012
Today, we live in a multicultural society with so many people speaking very many different languages. This is very much in contrast to say other parts of the world say China or India where the language itself may have dialects but there is usually a predominant one which most people speak and understand. USA is a melting pot of many cultures and though English is the first language, there are many other spoken languages at work here. The English language itself has been turned upside down and we are now finding that we sometimes don’t even understand the English people! The result of the infusion of people from differing cultures has brought about some interesting dialects and interesting usage of the English language spoken by people whose first language is not English. Since the dating game in USA has many crossbreeds of people mixing and working together there is bound to be some communication issues. Here are some essential tips when you come across dates that don’t have English as their first language.
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Apart from the obvious pronunciation difficulty of some words, there is a tendency for people to apply the English as spoken in their own natural language. For example they may say the action words first and then the person doing it ie. “he is doing it”, turns to “doing it is he”. This is much like the Yoda character in Star Wars where he would say things like ‘Decide you must, how to serve them best’. The general advice when you do come across your date mincing those words is to smile and be amused. If your date is a woman then you may go as far to say it’s a very likeable quality. Language is a funny thing and we have many people who are self-conscious of the way they speak especially if the person finds that other people to be ridiculing them whenever they speak. Unfortunately, the birth of the English Language which is the United Kingdom is often a culprit to this kind of profiling. However, over time as racial integration kicked in more people are now open to the nuances of the language as spoken by people of different cultures.
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When to Get Married with Your Dating Partner
Friday, April 27th, 2012
Online singles always find themselves in situations where they cannot decide when to tie the knot and exchange wedding vows with their long time dating partner. There are plenty of reasons for this like do you are not in a sound financial situation, not prepared to take on social and family responsibilities or not able to come to a conclusion whether your other half is the perfect partner for life.
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These are all the valid concerns of online singles but, if you are dating some one from a long time say for more than one year and want to see if both of you have good chemistry and dating more than a few weeks is not sufficient.
Nowadays both males and females are working and running a healthy married life in all aspects and is shared by both partners. There can be a possibility that one dating partner won’t be able to satisfy all the financial needs but both dating partners together certainly can.
One of most difficult hurdle is that mentally we are not prepared for social and family responsibilities. There are a very few who can help dating couples in this situation, the couple needs to sit down and discuss and communicate to each other their thoughts on these important matters of long-term partnership and this may help with making good decisions for the future.
Comment on this article and let Jumpdates know what are your challenges are in making decisions such as this.
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The ‘Happiness Factor’ in Dating
Thursday, April 26th, 2012
Have you ever thought about the frequency of dates you are having with your dating partner? This could have much bearing on your relationship and give you deep insights into your partner’s thoughts and values. Prior to the dates you were most likely a singleton with tons of time in your hands and now all of a sudden you are pulled into a whirlwind of romantic dates.
The ‘Happiness Factor’ in Dating
Most of us will not consider the sudden transition that often takes place especially if the partner you are dating is to your liking and looks like long-term potential. You may argue that this could be in some ways good or bad but the fact is that we have a strict ‘happiness factor’ in our lives that moves us in certain directions. The problem is that along with the high ‘happiness factor’ we could also land with a thud when something in the future goes out of tune or whack and when we are least prepared.
Again, the question is can we always rely on our basic instincts and judgements to carry us forwards or should we be aware of the rapid changes that is happening all around us. It is a good question and one that needs careful thought since the ‘happiness factor’ is at play here. The irony of this issue is that the ‘happiness factor’ can often be in conflict with your sensory perceptions of instinct that is used for survival factors. It is probably the main culprit in our conflicting opinions and views when it comes to gender differences (please read our previous post on this hot topic).
Without being too serious and making your day a dull one, lets end the post on a happy note. The ‘happiness factor’ is a prime driving force in all of us, but just remember that in the same way when you step onto the road and suddenly a car blasts past you, your instinct takes over and saves your life. Your instincts will be a better judge of steering you through the maze of dangers and pitfalls and to keep and maintain your ‘happiness factor’ at an elevated high.
Tags: dating partner, gender differences, long-term potential, relationship, romantic dates, The ‘Happiness Factor’ in Dating
The burning factions of love
Wednesday, April 25th, 2012
It is without doubt that love is a great force that moves us to do greater things but we also know that it can consume the very heart and soul and leave us wandering aimlessly through the plains of the earth. Could there be just the right balance that keeps us engaged with excitement and passion but not lean sufficiently towards the tipping point. What are the burning factions of love?
The burning factions of love
It would appear that a majority of us would like to have some control of our own feelings and thoughts and why shouldn’t we be? After all, by exercising such control we are able to do many things diligently without offending others and still manage to get on in life. By selecting a dating partner there are many who diffuse or channel what would be considered as ‘inappropriate’ energy towards them and find some solace and comfort within. However, is that also fair to yourself and your partner?
Perhaps we are all wired in the same way and the test of our success and failure on earth is directly proportional to the control and restraint we have over ourselves. Then again, why do we need to do this, since many have followed their deep seated desires to achieve greatness in this society, or have they? Here lies the difference. Our own mental conjugation of love determines who we truly are and how we perceive the outside world to be. Never forget that.
Although all humans have a great capacity for love, we still find ourselves in the shifting sands of time aimlessly and hopelessly peering into life without a clue. We rely on our instincts, judgements and advice to give more meaning to our lives but yet we find ourselves how empty all this can be. The torrential love affair that one has with oneself needs dissipating and the burning factions of love can be no more.
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