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Dating in the old traditional way can be a good thing
Tuesday, May 8th, 2012
We are living in a world that is moving very fast and as a result our entire life has to adapt with these changes. Vast amounts of information are now readily available on the net which means that we need to filter information more rapidly than ever before. If we don’t keep up with this information highway, we find ourselves lacking in substance and others will quickly lose interest in us. Much of this can also apply to the dates we find in our everyday life.
Dating in the old traditional way can be a good thing
If you don’t create the right impression in the first date, you don’t break a sweat because you know there will be plenty of fish in the sea. Such superficial attention to detail can mean that you will be attracting the wrong types of date. This is where the old traditional way of dating can be a good thing. Let’s think about this for a moment. You are in this wave of constant movement where time is too short and you constantly find yourself moving and you naturally look for the same thing in your date. If he/she cannot keep up with your speed of light thought processes, you are moving on and you leave the date wondering whatever happened. Wrong thing to do!
You need to take a step back and ask yourself that if you did find someone who is equally matched to your lifestyle, will it be a good fit. Most definitely, the match would not work and here are the reasons. Firstly, the person you are dating also has a similar agenda to yourself and this means that you will be in constant loggerheads with each other prying for each others attention. What you need is a person completely polarized to your own lifestyle ie. someone who takes time and ponders about life and makes decisions carefully. You may feel that person is going to weigh you down, but in contrary this person is actually going to help you to regain your normal posture, balance and bring you into a more meditative space in time. This will empower you more in other activities where you need it most.
Learn from the old traditional way of dating where partners complement each other in their qualities and lifestyle rather than finding a true 100% match.
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The nature of shortcomings in people - be mentally prepared
Sunday, May 6th, 2012
We all make mistakes and in the areas of couple relationships or when we are dating, the nature of our mistakes can become even more exaggerated. The question that follows, is what is the best way to deal with shortcomings in people.
Firstly, you will need to understand that everyone has shortcomings and our point of reference for people’s shortcomings are entirely based on our own experience. For example, if we feel that we do this and that and our partner is not able to do this and that, then this becomes a shortcoming in the other partner in our own eyes. Equally, your partner will also have a list of potential shortcomings in you! This is where couples learn to adjust and understand that this is the way of the nature and by talking about the subject often helps one to make reconciliations.
Often couples will try to aim for an exchange the services of their shortcomings. For example, you may be a good cook, then I cook and do the dishes. However, in my experience, this division of labor can lead to many problems and often induces self-frustration and leads to complications in the relationship. I believe, it is ok to divide some of the chores of the household or other matters but be very careful in not to take this too far. After all, you are both a couple and not a relationship of convenience.
It is important to know that aside from giving each other tasks based on each other’s shortcomings, is that you continue to overlap and look at many tasks that you can do together. Going out on a date night is ok, but there are plenty of other activities that will forge the relationship between you and your partner and make your relationship a more committed one. Try to think outside the box and do something totally different together instead of the usual walks, trips and regular activities that you are used to. The act of giving and doing something together are some of the paramount ways to build strong relationships.
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Office Dating- Get Your Work and Dating on Different Tracks
Saturday, May 5th, 2012
Busy schedules and fast paced life have left young singles with no time to socialize and think of their dating life. Young singles spend most of their time in offices where they come into contact with their coworkers a fair amount than anywhere else apart from the home.
Office Dating is on the rise
This is very natural in that the more you come into contact with your coworker the more you get attracted. However getting romantic with your coworker can also get you into tangles, especially if you relationship does not work out well.
Here are some of the hazards of office romance –
1. You spend lot of your time with your coworker and need a change but your dating coworker would not give you the opportunity to socialize with others.
2. Dating your senior or junior coworker can drag you to unwanted situations where you might be accused of favoritism. If this goes up to higher management it could cost your job.
3. There is always a lot of politics involved in the office environment, and you will find yourself in a strange land and any career decisions that you make could be jeopardized.
There is an old saying that one should not mix business with pleasure. However there are also good reasons to date your coworker and we will discuss this in our upcoming article.
Please comment in this article as to what you feel would be the relationship breaker in an office romance.
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Twitter Flooded with Hash Tag ConfessionNight What’s Your Take
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Twitter went crazy in the last 24 hours as there thousands of tweets coming for thousands on online singles and as you read this I am sure it would add thousands more. These all are coming with a special hash tag “#ConfessionNight” from different age groups but, the most interesting thing that I noticed was that they were coming from a majority of female twitter members.
confession night
This small hash tag is able to extract o lot of inner feelings of young online singles. One of the ladies wrote that some of her shortest crushes has become her good friends. A young guy of 26 says that he wishes that someone would just take his virginity. There is another confession from a mature lady who says that she always wears a smile even when everything in her life is going wrong.
Here is lesson for online single as they try to find their match on online dating sites. When you visit the online dating profile don’t just go through the profile but, look for what you want. Very famous writers such as “Dale Carnegie” has written in his book that one of the most difficult tasks in the world is to extract gold from a gold mine. You need to dig tonnes of dirt just for that small nugget of gold but what you want is that nugget and that motivates you to dig. Similarly go through the profiles because you never know what you may find that may lead you to your potential partner. Even though you don’t get the early success with online dating sites as some might get wear a smile and stay consistent.
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Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Reactivity and proactivity can go much further than the role of wife-husband or girlfriend-boyfriend relationships. One of the reasons why people can be frustrated with their own lives is because they may be playing a more reactive role without them knowing about it. For example your job doesn’t dictate the real values instilled in you and all you are required to do is produce without asking questions. You may find over time that the frustration starts to creep in and you blame your situation to the outside world rather than yourself. Here is pause for concern, since your inner self is showing signs of defeat, you need to muster up and ask yourself what you must to do to change the situation. Many people who are in positions such as this tend to compartmentalize their life between work and play. In work, they don’t really care much about the outcome as long as they get by and tend to channel their inert energy into their homes or families.
Another important factor regarding this dual role is that some may take it upon themselves as a sign of weakness. A man who always like to think of himself as the more dominant role will find that being reactionary to any situation especially within the roles of the relationship will consider it as a weakness on his part. This may lead him to be overly domineering and stubborn without any social grace to manage conflicting situations that usually arise in relationships. Similarly a woman who may be frustrated with her previous relationships starts adopting a more aggressive stance in her current relationship and thus ignores the subtleties required to keep the relationship fluid and moving.
In short, the reactionary and proactive roles can come from a deep seated frustration within us and it’s important to understand that it is always a good idea to give as well as take.
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