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Twitter Flooded with Hash Tag ConfessionNight What’s Your Take
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Twitter went crazy in the last 24 hours as there thousands of tweets coming for thousands on online singles and as you read this I am sure it would add thousands more. These all are coming with a special hash tag “#ConfessionNight” from different age groups but, the most interesting thing that I noticed was that they were coming from a majority of female twitter members.
confession night
This small hash tag is able to extract o lot of inner feelings of young online singles. One of the ladies wrote that some of her shortest crushes has become her good friends. A young guy of 26 says that he wishes that someone would just take his virginity. There is another confession from a mature lady who says that she always wears a smile even when everything in her life is going wrong.
Here is lesson for online single as they try to find their match on online dating sites. When you visit the online dating profile don’t just go through the profile but, look for what you want. Very famous writers such as “Dale Carnegie” has written in his book that one of the most difficult tasks in the world is to extract gold from a gold mine. You need to dig tonnes of dirt just for that small nugget of gold but what you want is that nugget and that motivates you to dig. Similarly go through the profiles because you never know what you may find that may lead you to your potential partner. Even though you don’t get the early success with online dating sites as some might get wear a smile and stay consistent.
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Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Reactivity and proactivity can go much further than the role of wife-husband or girlfriend-boyfriend relationships. One of the reasons why people can be frustrated with their own lives is because they may be playing a more reactive role without them knowing about it. For example your job doesn’t dictate the real values instilled in you and all you are required to do is produce without asking questions. You may find over time that the frustration starts to creep in and you blame your situation to the outside world rather than yourself. Here is pause for concern, since your inner self is showing signs of defeat, you need to muster up and ask yourself what you must to do to change the situation. Many people who are in positions such as this tend to compartmentalize their life between work and play. In work, they don’t really care much about the outcome as long as they get by and tend to channel their inert energy into their homes or families.
Another important factor regarding this dual role is that some may take it upon themselves as a sign of weakness. A man who always like to think of himself as the more dominant role will find that being reactionary to any situation especially within the roles of the relationship will consider it as a weakness on his part. This may lead him to be overly domineering and stubborn without any social grace to manage conflicting situations that usually arise in relationships. Similarly a woman who may be frustrated with her previous relationships starts adopting a more aggressive stance in her current relationship and thus ignores the subtleties required to keep the relationship fluid and moving.
In short, the reactionary and proactive roles can come from a deep seated frustration within us and it’s important to understand that it is always a good idea to give as well as take.
Tags: dominant role, Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3, girlfriend-boyfriend, relationships, weakness, wife-husband
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1
That being said, unless you have a large body of interests with your partner, you are most likely to fall into one of the two categories in the relationship. Though I could be wrong, since numerous closed studies would be needed between couples in order to elucidate the following facts. One of the individuals within the relationships will need to take on each of the roles ie. reactivity and proactivity. In many relationships where the men are the most masculine and the strongest of the genders, the role of proactivity may go to them whereas the females will have a more reactivity type role. Based on my experience, these type of roles can have serious underpinnings and grievances to the entire relationship if it’s not properly understood.
Take the case of a young couple where the female has understands her role to be fixed in any men vs women relationship. She would expect her partner to make most of the moves regarding where they go on a date and what he chooses to do or decide. It is very similar to the animal kingdom where the male is the predator when it comes to hunting females for mating. In this situation, the male over time may have certain expectations from the females and the female needs to be able to see this and play a more active role. However, it is entirely possible that a female who appears to be in a reactive role is ‘in fact’ playing a subtle ‘proactive’ role. For example, she induces a reactionary role within the partner just simply by observation and making subtle moves. This could also stem from the women’s survival skills to hold on to her partner so that she has someone who can father her children and will always be around for this.
It is a cautionary tale of love & conquests that we hear of from many romantic novels and movies. The roles of proactivity and reactivity are significant factors that come into play in a relationship without many men or women being aware of it. For some people who are skilled in the art of seduction, they may have a good handle on this technique and many men and women may unwittingly fall for this. Next time you find yourself being pulled in a certain direction, you may want to think for a moment whether you are in fact playing a proactive or a reactive role.
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3
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Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
I was fortunate enough to witness two good friends of mine who were both exceptionally extroverted locked in a conversation. There are very good reasons why people sometimes use the term ‘opposites attract’ and here was a perfect example of this. Both of my friends were passionate about making their voices heard and their conversation ended up just being that with absolutely no dialogue at one point in time. It was very funny and somewhat entertaining to watch. Mind you, I wasn’t laughing at them, I was simply observing the outcome of the conversation which seemed to lead nowhere.
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1
It occurred to me that in much the same way that men vs men can get locked in a conversation, there must be subtle differences in the way we converse with say men vs women or women vs women. Men usually hear stories about how women find it so natural to talk to each other with ease and many would go onto to converse for hours without even thinking. With the men vs women conversation and in particular when they are in a relationship the art of communicating takes on a whole new meaning. I sense that in that type of relationship one could pursue a communication that is tailored to prolong or forge the relationship rather than upset it.
In a courtship relationship between men and women, both have an interest at the outset of how the relationship will unfold and this triggers in each how to best communicate. Naturally there are agendas and self-interested pursuits within each individual and this will directly have a bearing on the outcome of the relationship and therefore the communication aspects too. It maybe the reason why couples are initially very aloof when they first start dating and it’s only after time that they become comfortable with each other.
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Tags: art of relationship, communicate, courtship relationship, dating, Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1, good friends, men vs women, opposites attract, women vs women
See clearly through the vines - A condition of the mind
Tuesday, May 1st, 2012
The mind is such a powerful force that we have yet to grasp a full understanding of its intricacies and operation. We could equate this with the famous Heisenberg theory of the uncertainty principle which generally states that the closer we get to the atomic scale the more difficult it becomes to detect the particle. In essence, the same applies to the mind where no microscopic surgical procedure of the brain can explain some of the wider implications of the mind.
See clearly through the vines - A condition of the mind
The mind is clearly a vast source of limitless energy where it shapes the personality and being of every individual. Many psychologists have debated the subject of the mind and have come up with words such as the ego, conscious and the subconscious to explain the behavior of men and women. There have been great thinkers of the past such as the Greek philosopher Socrates who questioned the logic of many people’s normal way of thinking in order to shed new light into the moral conduct of men. We can take some lessons from these past heroes and we too can shape our mind and thinking for the better.
One of the first principles that we can take away from the philosophers of our past is to see clearly through the maze of consciousness that sometimes weigh us down. Eckhart Tolle’s book on the ‘Power of Now’ shows that it is at the moment of time that we are at our greatest. To me, that singularly defines the condition of the mind since it is at this point where there is no past or future and everything rests on the ‘Now’. In short, you have the ability to change the course of the future by your mental condition at the moment in time. This is why I feel that many people who wield so much power or influence over us have the uncanny ability to control that very situation in that short instance in time.
We can apply this very kind of thinking when we meet other people, talk to strangers, meet up for a date and so forth. Revelling in the moment you are in opens you to higher creative possibilities and tunes you to a higher frame of thought that will have give you eventual benefits. Next time you are with someone or on a date, think for a second and enjoy the singular moments in time and you will see more ideas flood into your head than ever before. Conversation or any undertaking that you have planned will almost become like a breeze.
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