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The hidden meaning of the smiling face in your online dating profile - Dr Dato’s Brief
Tuesday, June 7th, 2011
There have been extensive studies done on the behavior of men and women when they go on a date and what is attractive and appealing to each gender. Everyone has different tastes but there some common traits that are universal to both men and women and this applies to the profile picture of someone on their dating profile.
The saying that a picture says a thousand words is to some extent true and for a smiling face the interpretation of the character of the person can be viewed very differently by anyone viewing the photo. In the case of a male gazing at a smiling female photo on their profile can be interpreted differently depending on the overall facial expression.
For example, if she is smiling and has her eyes frowning or smiling and has her lips puckered. The smiling face is definitely one that attracts many males to females but on the other hand a smiling face of a guy is interpreted differently by women.
An overly big smile by a guy can be interpreted as a man who is quick to please and possibly weak in character showing not much strength. A very slight smile can come across as someone who is not trustworthy and likely to be not so honest.
For the men, its generally better not to have a smile but to appear more aloof which strikes an air of mystery about the person which women find attractive.

Smile on profile photos need to be carefully selected if you want to attract the opposite sex
Tags: dating profile photo, mystery of the smile, smile means to men and women, smiling men and women photo
International women, how different are they from their American counterparts - Dr Dato’s Brief
Tuesday, June 7th, 2011
I recently read a heated debate on a popular dating site regarding the case of US women and International women such as Chinese women. Although the subject matter was different than the one described here, a post by a man who was married to a Chinese woman sparked this debate.
His post was aimed at the problems and complaints that men and women have over each other in US was a product of the Western world and the feminist movement and these problems were not typical of women from the Far East. He had many supporters from other men who had married women outside of US but was strongly attacked by some women who grew up here in the US.
I believe that culture and society that we live in affects us in many ways internally and some of us are completely unaware of how it can affect our mood, thought and even personality. We may even lose a sense of individualism as a result and expect to do things that is considered normal by society. At the end of the day we should go back and reflect on our core values that make us who we are are and make sure that is always in tact. These core values include integrity, honesty, helping others as well as yourself and also not pushing yourself ahead at the expense of others.
What do you think?

do all women have same core values or does society and culture have a big influence?
Tags: american women values, chinese women core values, relationships with women from abroad, women from america and far east
How important is complacency to dating relationships? - Dr Dato’s Brief
Tuesday, June 7th, 2011
The definition of complacency in the merriam-webster dictionary reads as follows;
’self-satisfaction especially when accompanied by unawareness of actual dangers or deficiencies’
In the reference dictionary online, the meaning reads…
‘a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger, defect, or the like; self satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation,condition, etc.’
I believe complacency is a part of human nature that can lead to many issues arising in relationships and dating. It is in my opinion, also the primary reason why many women have complaints agains their male counterparts. Without sounding sexist or stereo-typing, females tend to be better guarded against complacency and they are more likely then males to make change, initiate change especially in the matters of relationships. It is probably the reason why women may sound ‘nagging’ to their partner but in actual fact trying to keep the relationship moving forward with actions and longer term interest. It may stem from the biological ingrained quality built into women and expecting their partner to provide food and shelter which can only be done with action.
Anyways, complacency in any walks of life can be bad not just in dating relationships but in businesses and our daily lives. It can suppress creativity, the sense of action and determination and most important all the evolution of one’s own self.

complacency is something we need to be always aware of in relationships
Tags: complacency and relationships, dating and complacency importance, men women and complacency
Eharmony’s personality dimension analysis - fact or fiction? - Dr Dato’s Brief
Tuesday, June 7th, 2011
The founder of the dating website, Eharmony Dr Neil Clark Warren advocates strongly the personality dimensional analysis that matches couple together on Eharmony and has proven to be a system that works.
I honestly think that Dr. Neil Warren does not believe that himself and particularly having worked 35 years as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor (source Wiki).
Here are my arguments…
One of the most inspiring and thought provoking books I have read is ‘The Road Less Traveled’ by M. Scott Peck, M.D.
Scott spent his entire lifetime in his field of psychiatry and has always been amazed at the heart of people’s mind, thoughts and actions which he agrees is intangible in many ways and to categorize them only makes their conditions worse. He provides real examples where the factual evidence of science alone cannot explain some of the many improvements he witnesses in the human psyche.
This clearly shows the nature of the human being is far more complex than the one Dr. Neil Warren preaches. Personally, I think its a complete marketing ploy. One has to ask themselves has any of their previous relationships been based on a set of rules or been far more complex which required the adaptation of the two individuals working towards the betterment of the relationship at every level.

Read this book for inspiration, instead of believing that relationships are based on rules
Tags: eharmony founder Dr Neil Clark, M Scott Peck, Personality dimensional analysis, The Road Less Traveled
Future of mobile dating - Online Dating Briefs by Dr Dato
Monday, June 6th, 2011
Oddly enough mobile dating has still not got the attention or traction it deserves and there are plenty of reasons for this. Despite the number of mobile internet users which are outpacing the desktop internet users, the mobile market although hot in many areas has yet to mature in other areas.
One of the areas where it has real potential but still lagging is the online mobile dating. Although there are some apps. already available by the likes of match, eharmony, zoosk there are still plenty of room for expansion. This becomes more obvious when you count the number of online dating sites available on the web and the number of mobile dating applications.
Although one can access the same web page through their mobile phone, the original website was ideally designed for the user sitting in front of a 20 inch or so lcd panel. Some of the mobile OS (operating systems) providers now have browsers that ‘mobilizes’ the current website to fit the smaller screen of the smart phone, fore example sites such as google mobile or m.yahoo.com.
Expect in the coming years the number of mobile dating applications to increase on the smartphone but initially the demand is going to exceed the supply due to the slow pace of websites of converting their site to the mobile equivalent. One primary reason for this is the additional cost of developing a mobile app.

mobile dating has a strong future but few contenders so far
Tags: future of mobile dating, mobile dating application, mobile dating on the rise






