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Office Dating- Get Your Work and Dating on Different Tracks
Saturday, May 5th, 2012
Busy schedules and fast paced life have left young singles with no time to socialize and think of their dating life. Young singles spend most of their time in offices where they come into contact with their coworkers a fair amount than anywhere else apart from the home.
Office Dating is on the rise
This is very natural in that the more you come into contact with your coworker the more you get attracted. However getting romantic with your coworker can also get you into tangles, especially if you relationship does not work out well.
Here are some of the hazards of office romance –
1. You spend lot of your time with your coworker and need a change but your dating coworker would not give you the opportunity to socialize with others.
2. Dating your senior or junior coworker can drag you to unwanted situations where you might be accused of favoritism. If this goes up to higher management it could cost your job.
3. There is always a lot of politics involved in the office environment, and you will find yourself in a strange land and any career decisions that you make could be jeopardized.
There is an old saying that one should not mix business with pleasure. However there are also good reasons to date your coworker and we will discuss this in our upcoming article.
Please comment in this article as to what you feel would be the relationship breaker in an office romance.
Tags: dating coworker, dating life, Office Dating- Get Your Work and Dating on Different Tracks, office romance, relationship, relationship breaker, Young Singles
Twitter Flooded with Hash Tag ConfessionNight What’s Your Take
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Twitter went crazy in the last 24 hours as there thousands of tweets coming for thousands on online singles and as you read this I am sure it would add thousands more. These all are coming with a special hash tag “#ConfessionNight” from different age groups but, the most interesting thing that I noticed was that they were coming from a majority of female twitter members.
confession night
This small hash tag is able to extract o lot of inner feelings of young online singles. One of the ladies wrote that some of her shortest crushes has become her good friends. A young guy of 26 says that he wishes that someone would just take his virginity. There is another confession from a mature lady who says that she always wears a smile even when everything in her life is going wrong.
Here is lesson for online single as they try to find their match on online dating sites. When you visit the online dating profile don’t just go through the profile but, look for what you want. Very famous writers such as “Dale Carnegie” has written in his book that one of the most difficult tasks in the world is to extract gold from a gold mine. You need to dig tonnes of dirt just for that small nugget of gold but what you want is that nugget and that motivates you to dig. Similarly go through the profiles because you never know what you may find that may lead you to your potential partner. Even though you don’t get the early success with online dating sites as some might get wear a smile and stay consistent.
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Tags: confession night, mature ladies, online dating sites, Online singles, shortest crushes, Twitter Flooded with Hash Tag ConfessionNight What’s Your Take
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Reactivity and proactivity can go much further than the role of wife-husband or girlfriend-boyfriend relationships. One of the reasons why people can be frustrated with their own lives is because they may be playing a more reactive role without them knowing about it. For example your job doesn’t dictate the real values instilled in you and all you are required to do is produce without asking questions. You may find over time that the frustration starts to creep in and you blame your situation to the outside world rather than yourself. Here is pause for concern, since your inner self is showing signs of defeat, you need to muster up and ask yourself what you must to do to change the situation. Many people who are in positions such as this tend to compartmentalize their life between work and play. In work, they don’t really care much about the outcome as long as they get by and tend to channel their inert energy into their homes or families.
Another important factor regarding this dual role is that some may take it upon themselves as a sign of weakness. A man who always like to think of himself as the more dominant role will find that being reactionary to any situation especially within the roles of the relationship will consider it as a weakness on his part. This may lead him to be overly domineering and stubborn without any social grace to manage conflicting situations that usually arise in relationships. Similarly a woman who may be frustrated with her previous relationships starts adopting a more aggressive stance in her current relationship and thus ignores the subtleties required to keep the relationship fluid and moving.
In short, the reactionary and proactive roles can come from a deep seated frustration within us and it’s important to understand that it is always a good idea to give as well as take.
Tags: dominant role, Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3, girlfriend-boyfriend, relationships, weakness, wife-husband
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1
That being said, unless you have a large body of interests with your partner, you are most likely to fall into one of the two categories in the relationship. Though I could be wrong, since numerous closed studies would be needed between couples in order to elucidate the following facts. One of the individuals within the relationships will need to take on each of the roles ie. reactivity and proactivity. In many relationships where the men are the most masculine and the strongest of the genders, the role of proactivity may go to them whereas the females will have a more reactivity type role. Based on my experience, these type of roles can have serious underpinnings and grievances to the entire relationship if it’s not properly understood.
Take the case of a young couple where the female has understands her role to be fixed in any men vs women relationship. She would expect her partner to make most of the moves regarding where they go on a date and what he chooses to do or decide. It is very similar to the animal kingdom where the male is the predator when it comes to hunting females for mating. In this situation, the male over time may have certain expectations from the females and the female needs to be able to see this and play a more active role. However, it is entirely possible that a female who appears to be in a reactive role is ‘in fact’ playing a subtle ‘proactive’ role. For example, she induces a reactionary role within the partner just simply by observation and making subtle moves. This could also stem from the women’s survival skills to hold on to her partner so that she has someone who can father her children and will always be around for this.
It is a cautionary tale of love & conquests that we hear of from many romantic novels and movies. The roles of proactivity and reactivity are significant factors that come into play in a relationship without many men or women being aware of it. For some people who are skilled in the art of seduction, they may have a good handle on this technique and many men and women may unwittingly fall for this. Next time you find yourself being pulled in a certain direction, you may want to think for a moment whether you are in fact playing a proactive or a reactive role.
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 3
Tags: couples, Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2, Partner, relationship
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1
Thursday, May 3rd, 2012
I was fortunate enough to witness two good friends of mine who were both exceptionally extroverted locked in a conversation. There are very good reasons why people sometimes use the term ‘opposites attract’ and here was a perfect example of this. Both of my friends were passionate about making their voices heard and their conversation ended up just being that with absolutely no dialogue at one point in time. It was very funny and somewhat entertaining to watch. Mind you, I wasn’t laughing at them, I was simply observing the outcome of the conversation which seemed to lead nowhere.
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1
It occurred to me that in much the same way that men vs men can get locked in a conversation, there must be subtle differences in the way we converse with say men vs women or women vs women. Men usually hear stories about how women find it so natural to talk to each other with ease and many would go onto to converse for hours without even thinking. With the men vs women conversation and in particular when they are in a relationship the art of communicating takes on a whole new meaning. I sense that in that type of relationship one could pursue a communication that is tailored to prolong or forge the relationship rather than upset it.
In a courtship relationship between men and women, both have an interest at the outset of how the relationship will unfold and this triggers in each how to best communicate. Naturally there are agendas and self-interested pursuits within each individual and this will directly have a bearing on the outcome of the relationship and therefore the communication aspects too. It maybe the reason why couples are initially very aloof when they first start dating and it’s only after time that they become comfortable with each other.
Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 2
Tags: art of relationship, communicate, courtship relationship, dating, Gender Differences - Understanding the dual nature of reactivity & proactivity - Part 1, good friends, men vs women, opposites attract, women vs women
