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Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 3 - Opening a message with a member
Sunday, February 20th, 2011
Article Subject: Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 3 - Opening message with other members
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
Messaging is an important aspect of online dating and getting this right is all important in getting the attention of female or male members that have caught you eye.
Some of the insights we have gleaned from the Jumpdates database of members activity is that the quality of the message is key to get a higher rate of response. For example, introducing yourself with an opening remark such as ‘hi’ as opposed to say ‘how are you’ has a profound effect on the replies. However, keep in mind that the usage of words is all in the matter of context, for example if you are already engaged in a conversation, ‘hi’ is perfectly acceptable. What we are talking about here is the opening line to a new conversation with a member.
Like all other email applications that we use today, we generally open the email after viewing the ‘from’ and the ’subject’ line, so it is imperative that the subject line has something of interest. A simple ‘hi’ may do the job for some people but to be more effective, try some catchy lines such as ‘Wasn’t the weather dreadful today?’, ‘You will be astounded when you read this..’, ‘Hmm, you are into salsa dancing’, I think you get my drift.
Speaking from the men’s point of view, if you target a woman who happens to be very good looking then you can assume that she will be inundated with many messages. The trick is to sound unique which will create a sufficient interest or buzz for her to open and read your message.
From the women’s perspective, it is generally a good idea to view all the incoming mail, because you may find that a ‘hidden gem’ lurks underneath those unassuming messages.
Try not to be too dismissive and base your opinion on just the mail alone, because a profile description will never be able to replace the face-to-face meeting which can be very different from each other. Like all communication with other people, try to be courteous as possible, I am sure you would expect to be treated in the same manner.
be unique and courteous in your opening line in online dating
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Tags: dating advice, dating and messaging, dating etiquette, dating tips
Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 2 - Making your profile stand out
Sunday, February 20th, 2011
Article Subject: Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 2 - Making your profile stand-out
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
Apart from using good grammar and properly structured sentences to your profile description, you can also do a number of other tweaks so that it really does stand out of the crowd!
Try to sound like an action man or woman, instead of giving a laborious detail about your life’s wants and needs. It has been found through our extensive database analysis of users activity in the Jumpdates.com website that the most responses tend to go to people who are proactive in their engagement with other members of the website.
The whole topic is really ‘no brainer’ because if you think about it the chances that you are going to get responses is correspondingly higher the more you are proactive and message other users. Unfortunately for men, sitting down and waiting for responses are not effective and to a certain extent some women can do that but even they have to initiate too. To make your profile even more effective, add ‘activities’ to your profile and make it sound interesting. For example, if you like dancing then say so, men will be surprised by the number of responses they can get from like-minded females.
I started off saying ‘be active’ and this means regularly going through your profile, reviewing and updating it and actively seeking out other members through their search. You will find it quite engaging once you start having a conversation with one person, then another and then you may find yourself having to ‘filter’ out profiles later on.
This is a good previous post on more ‘hidden’ powers of profile creation.
can you see how this profile can be improved further?
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Tags: dating etiquette, dating tips advice, optimizing dating profile
Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 1 - English grammar
Sunday, February 20th, 2011
Article Subject: Dr Dato’s series on online dating etiquette - Part 1 - English grammar
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5
You may think that shortening the words from ‘you’ to ‘u’ looks very techspeak and cool but you will be surprised to learn that other members in particular females are actually turned off by this lingo. Whereas these abbreviations are ok in the restricted world of SMS texting or twitter and understood, they are actually bad when you put this up on your dating profile.
There are some permissible words such as ‘lol’, ‘haha’ and other emoticon words used in the context of communicating. However, an intriguing word such as ‘hehe’ can have differing view points and can almost sound like one has an ulterior motive behind the saying.
Today, it is so easy to pass your words through spell checker and not only that, all the online services ie. email applications, wordpress, forms that you use has automatic built-in spell checkers. In case you were wandering that when you fill out a form, why some of your words appear with a red dotted line beneath it, it’s because the system has detected a word that it couldn’t recognize or mistyped. Use it to your advantage and then you can always go to google and type the word you are having difficulty with and google instantly brings back suggestions, so you can tell right away that you have misspelt your word or not.
When you are creating your profile, pay attention to the proper structuring of your sentences, grammar and spelling errors, they can stand out like a sore thumb. After all, you want to have all those males and females look over your profile and not do the disappearing act when you type your location as ‘Kantucky, USA’.
Also inject a good sense of humor into your profile and try to write in such a way to induce some amusement or laughter in the other person but not from your grammatical mistakes!
For more information on good writing style, please visit my previous post on “Dating online? Beware of grammar errors!“.
mistakes like this may look amusing but leaves a bad impression
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Tags: dating etiquette, dating language, dating profile tips, dating writing tips
Looking for love? Start at the public library - Online Dating Briefs by Dr. Dato
Sunday, February 20th, 2011
Article Subject: Looking for love? Start at the public library
Article Link: http://www.royalcityrecord.com/news/Looking+love+Start+public+library/4313012/story.html
Article Rating: 2.8 (out of 5)
Website:
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
Here is an interesting thought about looking for love at the public library. When I read the title of this post I actually thought someone was going to provide tips on looking for a partner in the public library.
I am sad to say that this post says nothing of the like and only talks about an event held at a local public library where the staff will present some examples of online dating websites and how they work. In fact the full details of the event are given below:
Where: New Westminster Public Library
When: Thursday, Feb. 24, at 7 p.m.
Tel: 604-527-4667
Web: www.nwpl.ca
For the rest of us, we need to go to all our local public libraries and tell them to host such a unique event and providing the example here.
public library can host a range of events including help with online dating
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Tags: dating help advice, nwpl.ca, online dating help, public library dating
Online Dating Site Tracking Spammers - Online Dating Briefs by Dr. Dato
Saturday, February 19th, 2011
Article Subject: Online Dating Site Tracking Spammers
Article Link: none
Article Rating: 3.0 (out of 5)
Website: http://romancescams.org/
Dr. Dato’s Brief:
The above site romancescams.org appears to be a genuine site that is tracking online dating spammers. Although I could not say how comprehensive and up to date their site, they do have a few good tools to locate spammers by their photo and other forms of identification.
Most of the spammers that target dating sites are usually stolen identities and they may originate overseas but they are able to disguise themselves as coming from the USA. You can usually spot spammers from their pictures, messages, request for money and other abnormal behavior. I have reported how spammers can operate in my last post called.
For tools to do a search of spammers, you can visit the following links:
By emails, ID, and other identifications (database)
http://www.ecriteria.net/LinkSearchData.asp?DBName=scammers
By photo (database)
http://album.romancescams.info/
online dating scammers can be hard to sport, you need to distant yourself emotionally
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Tags: picture profile scammer, spammer directory site, spotting dating scammer
