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We as human beings are wired for love and connection though relationships are not always easy. As the lead researcher, Bianca P Acevendo at Albert Einstein College of Medicine says that romance need not fizzle out in a long term relationship and can last a lifetime to make the relationship healthier and happier. Women are happy in marriage when they get to spend more time with their husband, friends and family. Men are happy in marriage if they are happy with their finances. Both are happier when they feel they have influence over their spouse and a satisfying sex life. Couples can keep the spark in their marriage alive with regular date nights to make life fun and exciting which makes the brain chemicals flow. A happy couple does stuff to give each other pleasure, create mutually satisfying habits that improve relationship. Create a place where they can discuss openly and not be accused or judged no matter in how foul a mood they are. Be good listeners to resolve issues rather than walling up. Share life together and turn towards each other rather than turning away to make life more meaningful.

A relationship breaks when either partner feels like being ‘stuck’ in the role. Couples don’t usually fight for money, sex, raising kids, in-laws, or house work. They fight when they feel that their partner does not care about how they feel. Human brain is wired for love and connection. The moment this feeling of disconnection occurs, most couples fight as it gives them a feeling of insecurity and the blame game begins which causes the real damage. Divorce is hard on partner, children and the close family members too. It is a very difficult period of transition for all. Divorce brings in whole bunch of commitments and responsibilities from alimony, child support to property division. Divorce is hard and frustrations should not be taken out on the child which will affect his/her psychology negatively. Single parent faces a much tougher life as the child is not used to seeing only one parent at a time or the other parents on a specific date or time. The child hopes that parents will get back together and it is tough for the single parent to explain to the child that this will not happen. The close family and friends are also affected by the divorce. The friends cannot keep a relationship with both as it becomes a tricky situation to choose sides or fell sad every time they think of the broken relationship.

Behavior is a highly complex science and research is being done to relations between relationships and brains. Each individual behaves differently towards a person or a situation which can never be generalized. With research being carried out the world over, maybe someday we will be able to understand why male or females behave differently during different situations and circumstances.

Resources

Divorce And Women: http://www.livestrong.com/article/103381-psychological-effects-divorce-women/

Effect of Divorce: target="_blank">http://www.totaldivorce.com/after-divorce/psychology/psychological-effects-of-divorce.aspx