I recently came across an interesting post where a young man had posed the question whether it was ok to be a virgin at 18. There were many responses to this post including many from women. The responses in general were very positive giving praise to the young man and telling him to wait until the right person comes along. There are also plenty of reassurances from many saying that there is nothing to be ashamed about this but to feel proud. Some women who lost their virginity very young were positive in their attitude and went as far to say that one shouldn’t cave in until you were completely comfortable with the situation.

Virginity - a painful subject for some but a boon for others

In the USA alone the statistics for teenage sexual activity shows that 13% of teens have had sex by age 15 and the figure increases to 70% by the age of 19*.

If one did a search in Google, you will find some interesting posts by people giving advice on how to remain a virgin. The advice appears to be very constructive where they actually emphasize the importance of meeting lots of people of both sexes and going out on dates. This physochologically can take away the pressure of thinking about sex and focus on more important aspects of your life. They also emphasize that this cannot be done without the very important trait of having a respect for yourself and of others. This is where many would classify people according to their self-esteem which is a measure of your own self-worth and your values. There are a few who also advocate the religious values and the doctrines of sexual relationships between a man and woman and while giving some worldly advice in this matter they emphasize the importance of the connection with God.

In terms of the many people who are dating online, everyone will no doubt have their own values when it comes to having sex. However, the general advice seems to be from the woman’s point of view is not to get pressurized by the man and for men to wait until they find their ideal partner.

The Guttmacher Report