The ego is thought to be inexplicably linked to the mind but we know its meaning when some one says ‘that he has a big ego’ or ‘the ego will get in the way’. The description as most people understand it to be is that the ego can lead to a sense self-importance or even conceit.

Our Ego can get in the way of Dating

How can ego be so important to dating?

Well, ego has a tendency to focus on oneself and when you are with someone on a date, this can be detrimental to creating a good impression with the other person. One has to go outside of the ‘ego’ in order to establish a good repertoire with your dating partner. This can be hard for some people, especially in the case of very extroverted people and you may find yourself doing all the talking. The practice of looking outside of yourself and into your ego allows you to take control of the way you behave with the other person. The likelihood of you better controlling the conversation and the flow of the events with your partner are much more likely. However, there are also potential pitfalls of doing this as your shift too much away from your center and become more focused on the details of the conversation rather than flowing with the conversation.

How does one strike a good balance with oneself?

A majority of us can achieve this instinctively without having to always check oneself but this only happens when you have sufficiently mastered this technique with time. For example when we eat something very good, it can heighten our senses and immediately put us in a good mood for conversation. Other venues or events that can give us an uplifting feeling are when we dance, listen to music or engage in something we like doing such as a pastime or hobby. Talking at the expense of another can be also give you a good sense of lift but in reality you will be distancing yourself from the other person. Try to get into discussions with other people and join in, in this way you will gradually improve in confidence and you are better likely to shift away from egocentrism.

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