I came upon a single friend recently and he said to me that a recent change in his work has got him away from his desk job and into a new role where he is going out to meetings. He also said that he was really surprised by the number of people he was meeting and was enjoying the many people that he met through these meeting. In addition he said with a smirk on his face, that he also came across many single women. Meeting new people had struck a new chord with him and he genuinely seemed to enjoy his new role and as a result he also felt that his chances of finding that elusive partner had increased significantly.

It occurred to me that many people have various jobs that entails much or little contact with other people. If you did a statistical calculation of which kind of folks get many dates, I bet it would be the group who invite more new people into their lives through their jobs, hobbies etc. It then occurred to me that going out to events simply to find dates is in fact the wrong thing to do. The best possible way to get dates is to get yourself in front of new people whenever the opportunity arises. I took my friends information to heart and realized he was absolutely right.

There is a popular website called meetup.com that has groups on every kind of interest that you can think of. As I was interested in entrepreneurship and technology, a simple search in my local area where I lived churned out 30 or so meetings happening in the next week. I then joined and rsvp to some of these upcoming meetings. After having attended a few of these meetings, I was pleasantly surprised by the number of single people I had met in the events. I am pretty certain that just by attending these events or any events that hosts people, you will very likely find people who are also single. Remember this is very different to having an agenda of going out to find a single partner. These events are much more natural and approaching people is far easier than in single events where there is an agenda on the plate.

My advice to single folks out there…do not go to single events designed to hookup singles but go to events that interests you. In this way you are much more likely to approach other folks without an agenda and you are far more likely to come across many singles that will be to your own liking.