There have been many books written about body language all claiming to teach you the behavior of people and understanding the hidden queues and signals given off by other people unintentionally. Body language is particularly appealing to singles who go out to meet other singles for dates and if used correctly can lead to many dates for the practitioner.

Body language - putting single daters in context

You probably want to rush out at this point and go and seek out new books on this topic but a word of warning before you do. The books are very good at explaining the queues that people give off without be aware but its interpretation can be ambiguous depending on the situation. Let’s say you are in a conference as opposed to a night club, many men and women will give off signals that are similar in both places but their inferences and meanings will be very different.

For example a woman turning towards you to speak and pointing her-feet and playing with their hair will be considered to have different meanings in each of the two venues. In the first venue of the conference, it could be that she is genuinely interested in the subject matter of the conference and wants a good repertoire with you so she can seek out the right information. In the night club, the context is entirely different and her posture and body language will be read as different to the other venue.

When attempting to read body language of the opposite sex, first understand the environment you are in and tailor your approach accordingly. It would be unwise to approach someone in a bar that is maybe fidgeting and feeling uncomfortable and even if you do, you can use it to your advantage. Say something like, ‘This place has a certain ambiance which I am not feeling, I wish I was laying down on the beach somewhere right now’. The trick is to carefully observe the environment you are in and tune into it and let yourself go and feel confident knowing that you will have ample time to read the body language.

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By practising more in the moment of time and going with the flow, you are not exclusively observing people just for the sake of body language. You are tuning into the many facets of the whole event and you can find yourself drawn in more and become more alert to possibilities. Reading body language of the opposite sex should be done on an instinctive basis rather than a mere technical one, in this way you will likely to succeed in your dating ventures.