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We often find that this kind of problem can be resolved in other ways as in the case giving the person some space or at the tipping point of separation.

Unfortunately, when going to extremes like this, the result may not be favorable because the person can harbor ill feelings if he/she does not see it as a big problem.

we may remain ignorant until a light bulb goes off inside of our heads

The true response we want is that the person can see the whole picture and it’s like having a light bulb going off inside of their head.

If we meet this person equally on an aggressive scale, the conflict is rarely resolved and it takes one of strong character and foresight to make it work.

Understanding anger leading to resentment with the opposite sex – A man’s perspective – Part 12 >>>

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I have often heard of women who say that they can change their man in time from certain habits or behavior they dislike.

This rarely happens and can often be more damaging to relationships as the act can be construed as manipulative and not trustworthy.

forcing or trying to make someone change

Individuals having to deal with their own understanding of the problem and they first need to accept this as a problem.

Only then can they truly hope to solve the problems. Some women will continuously nag without looking into the real resolution required to solve the problem.

This may have originated from our parents who did the same when we were kinds and repetition was necessary in order to discipline the child.

However, the situation changes when we are grown up adults.

Understanding anger leading to resentment with the opposite sex – A man’s perspective – Part 13 >>>

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Often men will make that change if push comes to shove but they almost always resume their previous mode of thinking when the heat of the moment is gone.

There could be a number of reasons why men choose to behave like this ie. laziness, trying to get attention, expectation that nagging is just part of life.

being lazy can make it difficult for someone to change their ways

Some men don’t have the tolerance for nagging and if they choose not to do anything about it, can build up resentment for the other person.

Communication is essential to further development otherwise nagging and expectations for each other can be taken for granted.

Understanding anger leading to resentment with the opposite sex – A man’s perspective – Part 14 >>>

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It is unfortunate in our society and cultures that we are faced with a major problem that is not very obvious to all of us and this is being true to our words.

saying and doing can be two different things

Often our actions do not follow up with the words we say and in some cases completely contrary to what we have said.

Words can be very easily crafted for the right audience but the actions are what determine our true intentions.

‘Integrity’ which can often be termed congruency defines what we say in words and what we actually do in practice and this can be missing in many people’s lives.

We are almost always left in a position that this person will or will not do what was said and think nothing of it.

Unfortunately, it is this aspect of behavior that we are all becoming accustomed to that if not checked, will prevail and stifle human development.

Understanding anger leading to resentment with the opposite sex – A man’s perspective – Part 15 >>>

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We have seen and heard of people of integrity in our lifetimes, the individuals who hold steadfast to what they say, despite the temptation to go back on their words.

For example, people like Mohmat Ghandi, Sister Theresa and so on.

people like Ghandi were true to their words

All of us to a smaller scale have issues with this where we are unable to keep the smallest of promises to loved ones or anyone else for that matter.

In some cultures, two people can make a plan for the future and either of them can break it, it is considered quite acceptable.

The question of trust does not come into it as both parties do not hold the upcoming event as anything life changing or of any importance and so words and intentions are never come together.

Understanding anger leading to resentment with the opposite sex – A man’s perspective – Part 16 >>>