You found a person that you really like trough online dating and you finally meet him in a bar. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment. So try not to have too many alcoholic drinks.

Some might still believe in the good ol’ traditional dating. Good luck to them. But not you. You are wise and savvy. You know that online dating is a better and quicker way of connecting with other people and getting to know them. You know you can’t meet all the people in the world that might just be your perfect match. The Internet expands your probabilities, widening your choices to meet a mate. A note about free sites…, REALLY FREE dating sites with lots of members, and lots of member services just like jumpdates.com.

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Well, you have finally made the right decision to look for a partner using a US dating service, but you don’t really know anything about internet dating in USA or about offline dating service. I relate to this option as a financial one - Let’s say we have two markets and you want to choose the best one for your needs.

Here are some things to keep in mind on date.

1. Be honest.

If you’re not, you’re wasting your own time most of all, because you’ll be found out. You’re also spreading bad karma. Supposedly over 50% of people online lie about their age 5 years in either direction. If you have a problem with your age, income, appearance, education, etc., fix them, or fix your head. It’s relative, so focus on what you consider your good points. You can count on the fact that whatever you have to offer, someone is looking for.

2. Know what kind of relationship you’re looking for.

Some of the sites will give you a chance to specify, and all will give you a chance to talk later, if not sooner, Most feature the infamous “dating profile.” Since the Internet offers plenty of avenues for porn, most people on the legitimate dating sites are looking for relationships. Specify. Long-term commitment, marriage a possibility, companionship and maybe more, and “I don’t know” and “Let’s see what happens,” are all legitimate responses.

3. Avoid signs of desperation.

The dream date, of course, would come on like James Bond, cool, confident, suave and sophisticated, with an air of mystery. Desperate people move too fast, say too much, and ask for too little. A man who’s “any” for all categories – age, income, ethnic background, religion, children, etc. isn’t looking for a partner, he’s looking for a warm body. Pace your interactions – one or two emails a day, 10-15 min. IM sessions. Keep yourself under control. “Spilling” isn’t attractive. No need to write your life story the first time. That’s a turnoff. Keep it light. Save something for next time.

4. Let someone else deal with the walking wounded.

If she starts off talking about her traumatic past experiences, or specifies things like “No addicts, no liars, no wife-beaters, no bankruptcy, no adulterers, no borderlines, no hate-mongers,” etc., she’s showing you she’s not ready to date. I have compassion for these folks; so do you. Most of them will be fine with time and maybe you were there after your divorce or breakup. But I get paid to coach them to a better place, whil you’re looking for a viable date right now, and a person with that kind of baggage has no business being in a relationship.

5. Be selective.

A writer on one male advice website claims his great profile got him 56 female respondents last month. Men lie in the area of their prowess, but however may responses you get, be selective. You don’t have to answer them all. If they’re really interested in you AND NOT DESPERATE, they’’ll wait. Don’t have so many going at one time that you confuse the people, because you’ll confuse yourself. If the person you’re corresponding with gets your details mixed up, move on, unless you want to be just another pretty email in the inbox.

6. Give careful consideration to the area of sexual talk.

Everyone recommends the other sex bring it up first. It doesn’t matter as long as it’s done tastefully.

7. Who initiates?

It doesn’t matter who “winks” or writes first, suggests the phone call, or asks for the date, because you’ll find your personality type and there’s a pot for every lid. There are cultural variations as well. I recommend letting the guy do it, though. As a general rule of a thumb, if you’re a woman over 30 who’s looking for marriage, make the man do all the work, including all overtures and plans. If, because of that, he considers you “too high maintenance,” you have a clear indication he wouldn’t make a good marriage partner.

8. Rely on your intuition.

Use your emotional intelligence! If it’s too good to be true, it is. One sign of an ambivalent dater (which you do NOT want) is someone who comes on too strong at the beginning. If something gives you the creeps, get away. If for any reason you don’t feel comfortable giving personal information like your home email or street address, don’t do it. Better safe than sorry, and there’s no need to rush.

9. Your profile matters.

Get some professional help and feedback from a friend or two. Read the profiles of people of your same sex so you can see what the competition’s doing.

10. Your photograph matters more.

Any professional photographer can help you out. It’s worth it. Nobody looks like their photograph, but you don’t want to eliminate people because you have such a bad one. And please, don’t be so crude, guys, as to put a photograph on there of you with your last honey. (Could I have made that up?)

11. Get a coach.

Online relationships start in writing, and it’s easy to share what’s going on. Send the email to your coach and get a second opinion. You can get advice as to what to say, how to proceed, what to look for, so you look like a pro, not an amateur. It shortens the learning curve.

12. Do us all a favor and don’t ask “Why is SHE/HE looking online?”

You are, aren’t you? Maybe you live in a remote location, or don’t have time to run around at night, or prefer a slow introduction, or want to shop nationally. There are some super neat people looking online including me, my clients, my sister, my last boyfriend, and … you!

Have fun, and good luck!

Few suggestions that can be fun on date.

1. Theater – Most metropolitan cities have some sort of theater. And, for me it is close to watching a movie. So, I think it is fun and a little different. For the date to be successful, you need to know what your dating partner likes. Drama’s can be a little heavy on the first date. I tend to like comedies or a musical.

2. Ice Skating – Ice rinks are harder to find unless you are in a large city. But, they are loads of fun. I love to go to Rockefeller Center or the Wollman Rink in Central Park. These are both in New York City and are in a beautiful setting. It is a great way to laugh, talk and just have fun.

3. Miniature Golf – An old stand-bye that is still very fun. This is mostly a summer activity unless your city has a indoor miniature golf course. In 10 holes you will do a lot of talking and a lot of laughing. Don’t be afraid if you are not that good. No one shines at miniature golf. It is just a great ice breaker.

4. Roller Skating – Rollerblading is still a current sport. Lot’s of people do it. It is great exercise and a great way to talk and get to know one another. If you both are not good at the sport or have never tried it then take a 1 hour mini course. And, then you can spend many a weekend having fun and getting fit.

5. Jazz Clubs – Many people love Jazz. And, if you are not familiar with it, what better way to learn a little about that great musical era. A Jazz club is a fun scene and not loud enough that you can’t talk and get to know each other.

6. Art Gallery – This is only good if you both love art. Otherwise, it could get a little boring if only one person has fun and not too good an idea. This gives you and your date a way to talk about something other than yourselves. A great first date jitter breaker.

7. Bowling – An old stand bye that is lots of fun. Even if you are not good and as long as you don’t embarrass easily it will get you talking and laughing. And, laughing is the best thing to do on a date.

8. Walking Tour – This is great for an afternoon date. Lot’s of cities have walking tours. And, many people never think of a tour unless they are traveling. But, this is another great way to do something special on your first date that will help you find common ground between each other. And, it is a great way to learn about your city and each other.

9. Park – Parks are fun especially if you are athletic. Taking your date for a walk in the park gives you both lots of time to relax with each other and just talk. There are plenty of activities you can do in the park. Bring a Frisbee or rollerblades and just have fun.

10. Billiards – Billiards is also an old stand-bye that is a lot of fun. It gives you both a great opportunity to just talk, get to know each other and is lots of fun. And, don’t be embarrassed if you are not good. No one is watching you both miss. They will just see a couple having fun, so by all means laugh and make the other tables jealous.

How to have an impressive date with a woman

Asking her for a date:

• Before asking her out for a date, try to have some conversation together. This will be an opportunity for you to discover if your personalities and ideas are attuned with each other, before you do decide to ask her out for a date.

• When calling through the phone. Don’t forget to mention to her the conversations you had. This will give her the impression that you do listen, making her feel important. Then if you feel that it is time to ask her, go ahead; ask gently, not in a demanding manner.

• Ask when you both are alone. Never ask a girl out on a date in front of others, like her friends. If she says no, you will both be embarrassed.

During the date:

• Look good, be neat. Put extra effort to the way you look. Take the time be well groomed, smell nice and choose your clothes well. It must correspond to the place with which your date is set. Make a good impression, so you can charm her and she can be proud of you.

• Do not be late. Prepare for the big day ahead. Make the necessary reservations and planning for your date. If you have planned for it, she will be impressed that you did put some effort on your night together. Be sure that during the big day you have no appointments so you won’t be cramming and be on time.

• Be polite. Be sure to make her feel good by complementing the way she looks. And when seated at the table, turn your cell phone off. This will signal to her that you are very much interested in your moment together.

• Say her name. Make it a point to say her name every so often in your conversations, to make her feel at ease and special.

• Smile. Aside from putting up a positive attitude, your smile is an indication that you are happy to be with her.

• Have a Sense of Humor. Making a woman laugh means you have won half your battle. This means that she is having a nice time and creates a positive atmosphere. This will be an occasion she would remember, because she had fun!

Churches often stress the benefits of love, marriage, and family life, and Christians are encouraged to form relationships with others. Many Christian singles face the reality that meeting other eligible Christians can be quite difficult. Those in small churches often find it hard to meet enough single people, while singles in large church communities feel under the spotlight, or find it hard get to know people well. In these past few years the trend in dating from all over the world has changed drastically. Individuals looking to meet people don’t choose to line up in queues anymore, to try to get into the hottest places. Seldom will they be seen hanging out in pubs and bars, trying to catch a glimpse of prospective hook-ups.

If you decide to meet that special someone, always meet in a public place - NEVER meet in private for your first date! Always let someone know where you are going.

Make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere.

There are more than 700 dating services online in the United States alone and jumpdates is one of them . The huge array of dating services online can be overwhelming even for the most proactive dater. An average dating services online might demand $200 fee or less annually.

• Be attentive. Listen to what she has to say, do not interrupt. Let her finish, before you state your opinion and make eye contact.

• Be honest. Let her get to know you by telling her what you do and what interests you. If she does not like you for who you are, then she is not worth your time. Show interest in her too, by asking her about her work, hobbies and her likes. Be sensible and honest in initiating such conversations.

• Relax. Do not worry that your date is not having a good time. Go ahead and ask her. Just manage yourself well and enjoy the evening. Keep the conversations open and ask questions. Be sincere.

• Do not pretend. Be yourself. Pretending to be somebody that you’re not will not work in the long run. The truth will always come out sooner or later. It is a rewarding feeling if someone is drawn to you for who you really are.

• Never compare. It will be very unfair of you if you compare your date to your past girlfriend. Keep in mind that she is a totally different person with her own personality. Take the time to discover her; you might be pleased if you do. Comparing won’t get you anywhere.

• Never tell your date about the break-up of a previous relationship. Keep in mind that you asked her out so you both could have fun together. She is not your therapist, so do not recount your past relationship. Bury the past and move on. Here is a woman in front of you who is interested to know you more. Get to know her too, initiate a conversation that could lead to a common interest.

• Enjoy. Dating should be exciting and relaxing. A woman can sense if you are enjoying your time with her or not. Don’t stress yourself trying so hard to make it the perfect date because it won’t be. But you both can enjoy it. After all, you did invite her out because you liked her in the first place. Be spontaneous and have fun.

Online Dating: 4 Mistakes to Avoid

Did you catch the dating mistakes made during episode one of ABC’s “Hooking Up” documentary series? If you caught the episode on July 14th, I’m sure you would have noticed what doesn’t work when it comes to dating…

Mistake #1: Using an old photo

A self-proclaimed ‘Fabio’ look-a-like used a 15-year old picture of himself to entice women to meet him. I guess he figured once they met the ‘older’ version of himself they’d be charmed enough to stay. Not!

Mistake #2: Telling a lie… or two.

These come in at least three categories - age, name, and profession. I’m sure there are more but only three occurred in the 1st episode (that I saw). The musician (from mistake #1) said he was in his 30’s but he was actually in his 40’s. Can’t you just hear the umpire? Steeee-rike 2!

Or the classic line from one of the female daters on the show: “My name isn’t Jennifer, it’s Lisa.” Which was followed by her revealing that she was a doctor - just like her now confounded date.

Mistake #3: Asking yourself the wrong questions.

Cynthia, one of the daters, was a bit down after a string of rather unpleasant dates. She asked herself outloud ‘Why am I single?’ It had a feeling of ‘what’s wrong with me?’ to it.

A better question would have been - “How do I need to be to find the man who fits into my ideal relationship?” Or, ‘What’s the next best step for me in finding my ideal mate?’ Questions that focus on the positive of what you can do or be.

Mistake #4: Breaking up by email

This is probably more of an etiquette ‘violation’ than a mistake. Breaking up with a date by email. While the fellow said it was a cop-out, it was still tactless.

It’s rather entertaining watching the online dating experiences of others. Learn from their mistakes and save yourself a whole lot of time and trouble.Tune in Thursday for Episode 2.

Make your first date simple. Prior to your date, set a dating schedule… a minimum of an hour to three hours is ideal. A failsafe dating plan will assure the both of you are not obligated or disappointed to prolong a date that may not be going well for either party. Moreover, it avoids the awkwardness of ending the date soon.

If your new to online dating you may have allot of questions going through your mind about finding a date online. You have maybe heard things like its not safe or that you wont find a long lasting relationship online. Lets look at my top 5 myths of online dating. A cursory glance around Internet dating sites will reveal that you’re much likely to be talking to someone from the other side of the world than from your own town. How many pubs and restaurants can offer such a wide variety of people who all have a similar goal on their mind? None, in fact, most places you visit are crammed to the ceiling with couples and families, any potential partners are either already involved or surrounded by hopefuls before they even make it through the door.

Christian online dating became popular in the mid eighties, when online dating web sites first hit cyberspace. Christian online dating services promised the users that they would find like-minded people and all their dreams would come true.

Now all the traditional dating rules still apply. You have to trust the person, they have to be honest about the things they are telling you, and if there is no trust things wont work. That’s just the way dating is in general.

Five Killer Mistakes men Make Dating Online!

Mistake#1.

Having a Boring, Average Profile!

You have to put some real effort into your profile to make it shine above the masses.

Creating a unique, well-thought-out profile will instantly give you an advantage over 90% of the other men.

Tip one.

Create an interesting / different profile with some humor.

Be sure to have nothing negative in your profile

Tip two.

Have a good, recently taken photo!

Try a head and shoulders shot and smiling to begin with.

Mistake#2.

Placing Too High a Value on a Potential Date!

This is another instinctive mistake when first starting out.

Your mind plays tricks on you and you put the lady on a pedestal before even meeting her!

Tip one.

Treat every potential date as an opportunity for YOU to check HER out and see if you fancy her!

Tip two.

NEVER expect to meet the love of your life on a first date.

This way you will never be disappointed and sometimes very pleased.

Mistake#3.

Not Meeting Her Quickly Enough!

I did this myself for far too long.

The longer you leave it before you meet, the less likely it is to happen.

So forget about emailing for months and getting all worked up over email.

As soon as possible, meet for coffee and a chat to see if you like each other.

This will save you a lot of time and energy and disappointments.

Tip one. Ask for a coffee date in the first two weeks of emails.

Tip two. If she doesn’t agree to meet, move on and donn’t worry about it.

There are plenty more

Mistake#4.

Emailing Interstate and Overseas Profiles!

It’s tempting to do but is a complete waste of your time, energy and focus.

Unless you are rich and have a lot of spare time, don’tt bother with interstate and overseas profiles.

Why would someone interstate or overseas be better than someone local?

Tip one.

Only focus on and contact women in your immediate area.

Tip two.

Keep it down to 100 km radius from your home. This will keep your expenses and time travels down…

Mistake#5.

Not Choosing the Meeting Cafe.

This is more important than it sounds. Women like to be led by a decisive man. So decide/suggest the cafe time and date.

If she can’t make it when you suggest, reschedule to suit her within reason.

She will get the impression you are not timid and are comfortable making decisions. this is good.

Tip one. Make the first date during a week night. This will suggest you have a life and are busy on the weekend.

Tip two. Be relaxed at the coffee date. Don’t mention past partners or that you haven’t been dating for a long time. Just have some fun and be happy.

Avoiding these five mistakes will save you a lot of time, money, energy and focus with online dating. This will prevent you from quitting before you get the results you desire and deserve.

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