Change your life, change your reference point! - Part 3
This is third installment of the six part series on ‘Change your life, change your reference point!’
Use happiness index as your reference point
Forget about listening to all those positive thinkers who say do this and do that and when you try to apply it, it simply does not work. Why? Because every case is different and there is no unique solutions to someone else’s problem due to the complexity of other factors such as personality, the determination factor for doing it, the nuances of the problem etc.
Instead of working from someone else’s collections of motives and thoughts that might work for them, you need to create your own unique way of thinking. This will be the basis of your reference point that will have a profound and significant change in your life, once you start applying it. So, simply put, you now have the tools and capabilities to gradually work your way out of almost everything and eventually you will see gainful improvements in your life as a result of your reference point going up and up.
Let’s look at some of these examples. Say for example, that you pin-pointed the fact that your happiness is very wobbly around the type of friends you keep. Your first task should be find out how they affect your life and if they are obstructive to your growth. Naturally, your first course of action maybe is to ditch those destructive friends, but that would not be the correct way of going about it. You can probably learned from experience that this never happens because you are somehow intrinsically connected with these people.
A much better approach is to change your outlook and forget that they are the cause of your troubles and there is nothing you can do about it but go about to change your ‘thinking within’. This is a powerful remedy taught by all the famous gurus around the world which many people do not fully appreciate it’s hidden meanings and power. A true and wanting change within oneself will automatically bring about external forces and changes around yourself without you having to drive it. So in the example above, instead of ditching your friends, look for friends who can lift that reference point that you set so low to a higher plane. What you will find eventually, is that the friends that you keep in your zone is defined by this reference point and it simply won’t change unless you choose to change it. You can always come back to your personal graph and plot the average of the reference point and see it in real-time. So basically, the things you are trying to do are simply not working otherwise your point will be moving up. Eventually, you will come to realize the true nature of what must be done to ensure that you come out of that deadlocked zone. As you do so, you will feel a sense of pride that this is working for you and no one else and in time you will find yourself drawn to another whole group of friend and associates.
So in essence, ‘CHANGE YOUR REFERENCE POINT, AND YOU CHANGE YOUR WORLD’
In Part 4 we will continue to provide you with real examples of how this technique can clearly reveal some of the errors of your ways and not only bring about immediate benefits but a continued path towards greater happiness. The wonderful thing is that this ‘new lease of life’ does not mean additional work and toil to achieve it but in fact the opposite which we will explain later.
