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Modern Darwinism of Dating
Thursday, February 21st, 2013
We all are aware of Darwin’s theory of evolution. Charles Darwin proposed a hypothesis almost a hundred and fifty years ago which is applicable to dating today.
Darwin’s Laws and Modern Dating:
1. The Premise: All life is related and descended from a common ancestor. Over time the complex creatures have evolved from a simple ancestor. Same can be applied to relationship as relationships have become so complex over time. People look out for benefits in a dating relation and people evolve into different personalities
Modern Darwinism of Dating
2. Natural Selection: people when dating follow this principle as each person looks out for qualities that preserve their personality and offer them minor advantages out of the relationship. It is the preservation of functional advantage and elimination of inferior qualities according to ones temperament
3. Slowly but Surely: no relationship blossoms or flowers overnight, there can never be a sudden leap in the relationship status but a gradual advancement to the next stage of the relationship. Each individual is a complex personality. To understand the other person is a slow and gradual process. Only after understanding each other, the relationship evolves into a rich and meaningful relations
4. Theory In Crisis: we as humans do not need a microscope to see the effect of the complications in a relationship. Specific complexities exist in every relationship which may make or mar a relationship. Each aspect of the relationship has to be handled differently like how we use the eye to focus in different amounts of light
Modern Darwinism of dating can be so rightly called a law and not a theory in the modern world as well as each person unknowingly follows the above four laws for a successful relationship.
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6 Ways to Spoil Your Dating Life
Monday, February 18th, 2013
Flowers and relationships need to be nurtured to bloom. Dating is the beginning of a beautiful long term relationship. Dating is one moment that is looked forward to every time by each person. With online dating websites, each one can find a date for an evening or a life time from the comforts of the home or office. With a busy schedule for the day or week each person is caught in a very routine way of life. Avoid these sexy six dating spoilers thereby adding more meaning to your dating life.
6 ways to spoil your dating life
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1. Ambition: workaholics are obsessed with their career. Their focus is only on career which does not permit them to enjoy or have fun when with a date. If you cannot pay attention to your date, it is sure to break your relationship up. Each person is wired for affection and connection. If you cannot connect as you are preoccupied with your work then your dating life has gone for a nose dive
2. Time: to develop and sustain a relationship, one has to devote time. Long working hours and stress causes fatigue which shows. If you are spending time with your date looking so tired and disinterested, nobody wants to waste time with a boring date
3. Emotional Dependency: don’t be emotional on your date till the relationship develops into a matured long term affair
4. Possessive: don’t get too possessive about your date as you will end up hurting him/her rather than making him/her happy. Each needs their own space and time even when dating
5. Communication: with connectivity at our fingertips we all are addicted to instant messaging (IM) or texting. You choose to meet that person online rather than in person. Communication is restricted to typing only whereas verbal communication has a magical effect on a relationship
6. Ego: keep ego out of a relationship unless you want to end that relationship. Each person has own view point or opinion and neither is wrong in their own way. Handle the situation rationally and don’t let your ego drive your decisions
Male and Female Behavior as per Stage of Relationship - Part 2
Monday, February 18th, 2013
We as human beings are wired for love and connection though relationships are not always easy. As the lead researcher, Bianca P Acevendo at Albert Einstein College of Medicine says that romance need not fizzle out in a long term relationship and can last a lifetime to make the relationship healthier and happier. Women are happy in marriage when they get to spend more time with their husband, friends and family. Men are happy in marriage if they are happy with their finances. Both are happier when they feel they have influence over their spouse and a satisfying sex life. Couples can keep the spark in their marriage alive with regular date nights to make life fun and exciting which makes the brain chemicals flow. A happy couple does stuff to give each other pleasure, create mutually satisfying habits that improve relationship. Create a place where they can discuss openly and not be accused or judged no matter in how foul a mood they are. Be good listeners to resolve issues rather than walling up. Share life together and turn towards each other rather than turning away to make life more meaningful.
A relationship breaks when either partner feels like being ‘stuck’ in the role. Couples don’t usually fight for money, sex, raising kids, in-laws, or house work. They fight when they feel that their partner does not care about how they feel. Human brain is wired for love and connection. The moment this feeling of disconnection occurs, most couples fight as it gives them a feeling of insecurity and the blame game begins which causes the real damage. Divorce is hard on partner, children and the close family members too. It is a very difficult period of transition for all. Divorce brings in whole bunch of commitments and responsibilities from alimony, child support to property division. Divorce is hard and frustrations should not be taken out on the child which will affect his/her psychology negatively. Single parent faces a much tougher life as the child is not used to seeing only one parent at a time or the other parents on a specific date or time. The child hopes that parents will get back together and it is tough for the single parent to explain to the child that this will not happen. The close family and friends are also affected by the divorce. The friends cannot keep a relationship with both as it becomes a tricky situation to choose sides or fell sad every time they think of the broken relationship.
Behavior is a highly complex science and research is being done to relations between relationships and brains. Each individual behaves differently towards a person or a situation which can never be generalized. With research being carried out the world over, maybe someday we will be able to understand why male or females behave differently during different situations and circumstances.
Resources
Divorce And Women: http://www.livestrong.com/article/103381-psychological-effects-divorce-women/
Effect of Divorce: target="_blank">http://www.totaldivorce.com/after-divorce/psychology/psychological-effects-of-divorce.aspx
Tags: dating advice, Male and Female behavior, relationship help
Male and Female Behavior as per Stage of Relationship
Sunday, February 17th, 2013
Relationships are a highly complex phenomenon. Each brain reacts differently to every situation. The male and female brain activity changes according to the stage of the relationship they are in. The medial prefrontal cortex region of the brain plays a major role in romantic decision making by making judgments about physical attraction or the person is Ms or Mr. Right. Each person goes through different stages in a relationship that begin with dating as teenagers, adult dating, courtship, marriage and in some cases divorce and single parent. At every stage the male and female behavior gets altered depending on the brain activity.
Male and Female behavior as per stage of relationship
Teenage Dating and romance: Teenage is the weirdest stage in a person’s life. You like to prove to the world that you know all but you are most confused about everything. Puberty just kicks in changing the hormonal balance and gives one the intoxicating feeling of first love or first crush. The brain structure and chemicals affect the way a teenager reacts to romance. The boys at this age can think of nothing except sex as the testosterones surge in the system and their interest in the physical aspect of sex is much higher. The girls do undergo hormonal changes and their focus is on the relational aspect of sex.
Falling in love is an emotion and the brain activity is like having taken a shot of cocaine. When in love, the brain releases dopamine and serotonin which gives the feeling of euphoria. Teenagers get bored as the excitement of the emotion is lost and get tempted to find a new partner for the emotional ‘high’.
Adult singles do go through this same cycle of euphoria. Being single and ready to mingle, people start looking for a more consistent relationship rather than only the ‘emotional kick’. The feeling of commitment for a long term relationship sets in as the brain starts making judgments about a long term relationship. This gives a feeling of security to both the male and the female and a happier state of mind with a fulfilling relationship. Physical attractiveness does play a major role amongst adult singles to find a partner. Once they have found a companion then behavior pattern changes as brain activity changes. Girls look for intimate bonding due to the release of oxytocin while guys hormone vasopressin increases the feeling of being her protector and being more attentive towards her. This stage can be the stage of courtship when life is most beautiful as both care more about each other and express their emotions too. During this stage in the relationship, the guy will shower his girl with gifts and she in turn will take pride in being his chosen girl and envy of most around.
Resources
Single parent: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/07/22/psychological-impact-single-parenting/
Couple fight: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201104/marriage-problems-why-couples-fight
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College romance: Dating places to fall in love
Saturday, February 16th, 2013
College times are the ideal time to fall in love. You are in your late teens and full of energy and curiosity. You come across hordes of people, you interact with; get attracted to not only for their looks but for their qualities due to common interests as well. As students most of the time of the year is spent in college in labs, classrooms, gyms, cafeteria, basketball ground or the park bench. The remainder of the time is spent at parties or events. Meeting many people makes it likelier that you will develop attraction for someone.
College romance: Dating places to fall in love
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Cafeteria is the most likely place to fall in love when in college. The free time is spent over coffee and each person here is trying to break the rut and relax in the little free time. With an almost free mind, one becomes more observant and the probability of being attracted to somebody is the highest.
Gym or sports field is another place to fall in love. Working out not only pumps the heart but also releases the feel good hormone in the brain. Again a relaxed mind is more prone to logical thinking and being attracted to the person whose interests match yours.
Close proximity in the laboratory when working on some projects together builds a bond which turns into affection. This can be called the intellectual binding which develops into a special relationship.
‘Fall’ is a process that is uncontrollable, inevitable, risky that makes you vulnerable. It is so rightly phrased to fall in love and what can be a better place to fall in love than in college when youth and enthusiasm are at its peak?
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